5_MC Skills_NN2 Every_AT1 Kid_NN1 Needs_VVZ Help_VV0 your_APPGE child_NN1 win_VV0 friends_NN2 and_CC influence_VV0 people_NN with_IW these_DD2 simple_JJ strategies_NN2 ._. 
Oh_UH ,_, and_CC he_PPHS1 'll_VM be_VBI a_RR21@ lot_RR22 easier_JJR to_TO live_VVI with_IW ,_, too_RR ._. 
When_CS a_AT1 little_JJ kid_NN1 manages_VVZ to_TO wrestle_VVI her_APPGE own_DA tights_NN2 on-even_JJ though_CS the_AT heels_NN2 are_VBR popping_VVG out_RP in_II31 front_II32 of_II33 her_PPHO1 ankles-or_CC propels_VVZ her_APPGE fork_NN1 to_II her_APPGE lips_NN2 without_IW bouncing_JJ bunny-shaped_JJ macaroni_NN1 onto_II the_AT carpet_NN1 ,_, you_PPY feel_VV0 a_AT1 surge_NN1 of_IO pride_NN1 :_: she_PPHS1 's_VBZ learning_VVG to_TO do_VDI for_IF herself_PPX1 ._. 
and_CC when_RRQ she_PPHS1 gets_VVZ a_RR21 little_RR22 older_JJR and_CC tackles_VVZ her_APPGE homework_NN1 without_IW being_VBG hounded_VVN or_CC teaches_VVZ you_PPY how_RRQ to_TO set_VVI your_APPGE preferences_NN2 on_II your_APPGE new_JJ Pda_NP1 ,_, you_PPY want_VV0 to_TO cry_VVI with_IW gratitude._NNU kids_NN2 these_DD2 days_NNT2 ,_, as_CSA they_PPHS2 might_VM put_VVI it_PPH1 ,_, have_VH0 mad_JJ skillz_NN1 ._. 
But_CCB do_VD0 n't_XX let_VVI them_PPHO2 stop_VVI there-they_PPHS2 need_VV0 to_TO master_VVI more_DAR than_CSN self-care_JJ and_CC smartphones_VVZ to_TO be_VBI both_RR happy_JJ and_CC successful_JJ in_II life_NN1 ._. 
When_RRQ was_VBDZ the_AT last_MD time_NNT1 you_PPY had_VHD a_AT1 sonic_JJ runny-mascara_JJ meltdown_NN1 because_CS there_EX were_VBDR raisins_NN2 in_II your_APPGE coffee_NN1 cake_NN1 and_CC you_PPY haaaate_VV0 raisins_NN2 ?_? 
Being_VBG able_JK to_TO control_VVI your_APPGE impulses_NN2 ,_, delay_VV0 gratification_NN1 ,_, and_CC identify_VV0 and_CC manage_VV0 your_APPGE feelings_NN2 are_VBR all_DB skills_NN2 that_CST fall_VV0 under_II the_AT category_NN1 of_IO emotional_JJ intelligence_NN1 ._. 
social_JJ intelligence_NN1 is_VBZ all_DB about_II being_VBG able_JK to_TO relate_VVI to_II others_NN2 ,_, respond_VV0 to_II their_APPGE feelings_NN2 and_CC cues_NN2 ,_, and_CC negotiate_VV0 conflicts_NN2 ._. 
learning_VVG these_DD2 techniques_NN2 is_VBZ important_JJ not_XX only_RR so_CS your_APPGE kids_NN2 will_VM have_VHI friends_NN2 to_TO complain_VVI about_II their_APPGE parents_NN2 to_II ,_, but_CCB also_RR so_CS21 that_CS22 they_PPHS2 can_VM do_VDI well_RR in_II school_NN1 ._. 
here_RL are_VBR five_MC such_DA skills_NN2 you_PPY can_VM help_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 develop_VV0 that_CST will_VM set_VVI her_PPHO1 up_RP for_IF life_NN1 ._. 
How_RRQ to_TO be_VBI a_AT1 loser_NN1 No_AT mom_NN1 wants_VVZ her_APPGE child_NN1 to_TO be_VBI a_AT1 loser_NN1 in_II the_AT good-at-nothing_NN1 ,_, eating-lunch-alone_JJ ,_, social-outcast_JJ sense_NN1 of_IO the_AT word_NN1 ._. 
But_CCB literally_RR learning_VVG how_RRQ to_TO lose_VVI at_II something_PN1 ,_, handle_VV0 it_PPH1 ,_, and_CC then_RT bounce_VV0 back_NN1 is_VBZ critical_JJ to_II being_VBG happy_JJ ._. 
think_VV0 about_II it_PPH1 :_: losing_VVG a_AT1 game_NN1 of_IO boxball_NN1 is_VBZ nice_JJ training_NN1 for_IF when_RRQ you_PPY do_VD0 n't_XX have_VHI the_AT winning_JJ powerball_NN1 ticket_NN1 ,_, which_DDQ ,_, odds_NN2 are_VBR ,_, you_PPY wo_VM n't_XX ._. 
For_IF little_JJ kids_NN2 :_: Model_NN1 being_VBG a_AT1 good_JJ loser-over_NN1 and_CC over_RP ._. 
say_VV0 something_PN1 like_II "_" Ooh_UH ,_, you_PPY whupped_VVD my_APPGE butt_NN1 !_! that_DD1 was_VBDZ so_RG fun_JJ ._. 
let_VM21 's_VM22 play_VVI again_RT ._. "_" 
it_PPH1 's_VBZ fine_JJ to_TO let_VVI preschoolers_NN2 win_VVI much_DA1 of_IO the_AT time_NNT1 ,_, but_CCB then_RT gradually_RR wean_VV0 them_PPHO2 off_II it_PPH1 ,_, says_VVZ Erika_NP1 rich_JJ ,_, Ph.D._NP1 ,_, a_AT1 child_NN1 psychologist_NN1 in_II los_FW angeles_NN2 who_PNQS runs_VVZ social-skills_NN2 groups_NN2 for_IF children_NN2 ._. 
When_CS you_PPY win_VV0 ,_, say_VV0 to_II your_APPGE child_NN1 ,_, "_" i_ZZ1 won_VVD this_DD1 time_NNT1 ._. 
But_CCB you_PPY made_VVD a_AT1 great_JJ try_NN1 ._. "_" 
if_CS he_PPHS1 gets_VVZ terribly_RR upset_VVN ,_, explain_VV0 that_CST no_PN121 one_PN122 prefers_VVZ to_TO lose_VVI ,_, but_CCB that_DD1 losing_NN1 is_VBZ part_NN1 of_IO playing-the_AT only_JJ person_NN1 who_PNQS truly_RR loses_VVZ is_VBZ the_AT one_PN1 who_PNQS does_VDZ n't_XX make_VVI an_AT1 effort_NN1 ._. 
"_" starting_VVG around_II age_NN1 five_MC ,_, your_APPGE child_NN1 should_VM not_XX be_VBI winning_VVG every_AT1 game_NN1 ,_, and_CC it_PPH1 's_VBZ time_NNT1 to_TO let_VVI him_PPHO1 experience_VVI losing_VVG ,_, even_CS21 if_CS22 it_PPH1 means_VVZ a_AT1 tantrum_NN1 ,_, "_" says_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
it_PPH1 may_VM take_VVI a_AT1 few_DA2 million_NNO games_NN2 of_IO Candy_NN1 land_NN1 ,_, but_CCB he_PPHS1 'll_VM get_VVI the_AT hang_NN1 of_IO it_PPH1 ._. 
For_IF bigger_JJR kids_NN2 :_: By_II age_NN1 8_MC ,_, says_VVZ rich_JJ ,_, most_DAT children_NN2 tend_VV0 to_TO take_VVI losing_VVG in_II stride_NN1 ._. 
one_MC1 reason_NN1 some_DD still_RR do_VD0 n't_XX is_VBZ that_DD1 school-age_JJ children-like_JJ many_DA2 adults-can_JJ become_VV0 so_RR focused_VVN on_II the_AT outcome_NN1 of_IO a_AT1 process_NN1 (_( getting_VVG to_TO sit_VVI next_II21 to_II22 a_AT1 friend_NN1 ,_, being_VBG chosen_VVN first_MD for_IF a_AT1 team_NN1 ,_, scoring_VVG the_AT highest_JJT )_) that_CST they_PPHS2 lose_VV0 sight_NN1 of_IO what_DDQ 's_VBZ fun_JJ along_II the_AT way_NN1 ,_, says_VVZ Pam_NP1 schiller_NN1 ,_, Ph.D._NP1 ,_, author_NN1 of_IO Seven_MC Skills_NN2 for_IF School_NN1 Success_NN1 ._. 
the_AT trick_NN1 is_VBZ to_TO get_VVI their_APPGE eyes_NN2 off_II the_AT prize_NN1 ._. 
if_CS your_APPGE child_NN1 loses_VVZ a_AT1 ball_NN1 game_NN1 ,_, for_REX21 example_REX22 ,_, schiller_NN1 suggests_VVZ saying_VVG ,_, "_" so_CS you_PPY did_VDD n't_XX win_VVI ._. 
let_VM21 's_VM22 talk_VVI about_II some_DD of_IO the_AT other_JJ things_NN2 that_CST happened_VVD ._. 
Did_VDD you_PPY enjoy_VVI getting_VVG out_RP there_RL and_CC playing_VVG with_IW the_AT other_JJ guys_NN2 on_II your_APPGE team_NN1 ?_? 
Did_VDD you_PPY enjoy_VVI the_AT other_JJ parents_NN2 cheering_VVG for_IF you_PPY ?_? 
Did_VDD you_PPY enjoy_VVI being_VBG outside_RL ?_? "_" the_AT goal_NN1 ,_, schiller_NN1 emphasizes_VVZ ,_, is_VBZ to_TO "_" take_VVI them_PPHO2 away_II21 from_II22 the_AT idea_NN1 that_CST if_CS they_PPHS2 did_VDD n't_XX win_VVI ,_, it_PPH1 was_VBDZ n't_XX any_DD fun_NN1 ._. "_" 
How_RRQ to_TO be_VBI a_AT1 joiner_NN1 You_PPY do_VD0 n't_XX want_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 to_TO be_VBI indistinguishable_JJ from_II the_AT flock_NN1 ,_, but_CCB knowing_VVG how_RRQ to_TO join_VVI in_II an_AT1 activity_NN1 or_CC a_AT1 preexisting_NN1 group-rather_RR than_CSN sitting_VVG on_II the_AT sidelines-is_VBZ good_JJ training_NN1 for_IF the_AT future_NN1 ._. 
"_" in_II every_AT1 aspect_NN1 of_IO life_NN1 ,_, she_PPHS1 's_VBZ going_VVGK to_TO have_VHI to_TO work_VVI in_II a_AT1 group_NN1 ,_, on_II school_NN1 projects_NN2 or_CC at_II a_AT1 job_NN1 ,_, "_" says_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
"_" Kids_NN2 and_CC adults_NN2 are_VBR frequently_RR thrown_VVN together_RL with_IW people_NN they_PPHS2 might_VM not_XX ordinarily_RR choose_VVI ,_, and_CC they_PPHS2 need_VV0 to_TO be_VBI able_JK to_TO negotiate_VVI different_JJ ideas_NN2 and_CC realize_VVI that_CST others_NN2 have_VH0 important_JJ things_NN2 to_TO contribute_VVI ,_, too_RR ._. 
leaders_NN2 are_VBR often_RR the_AT ones_NN2 who_PNQS are_VBR able_JK to_TO glue_VVI a_AT1 team_NN1 together_RL ._. "_" 
For_IF little_JJ kids_NN2 :_: you_PPY 'll_VM probably_RR have_VHI to_TO first_MD teach_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 to_TO recognize_VVI an_AT1 entree_NN1 to_II a_AT1 group_NN1 ,_, says_VVZ child_NN1 psychologist_NN1 lawrence_NN1 E._NP1 shapiro_NN1 ,_, Ph.D._NP1 ,_, author_NN1 of_IO How_RRQ to_TO Raise_VV0 a_AT1 Child_NN1 With_IW a_AT1 High_JJ EQ_NN1 ._. 
"_" sometimes_RT a_AT1 child_NN1 will_VM try_VVI to_TO talk_VVI to_II the_AT whole_JJ group_NN1 ,_, as_II31 opposed_II32 to_II33 picking_VVG out_RP one_MC1 kid_NN1 in_II the_AT group_NN1 ,_, "_" he_PPHS1 says_VVZ ._. 
Picture_VV0 a_AT1 child_NN1 standing_VVG outside_II a_AT1 circle_NN1 ,_, saying_VVG to_II no_PN121 one_PN122 in_II particular_JJ ,_, "_" Can_VM i_MC1 play_NN1 ?_? "_" and_CC not_XX being_VBG heard_VVN ._. 
instead_RR ,_, point_VV0 out_RP the_AT kid_NN1 who_PNQS is_VBZ giving_VVG off_RP friendly_JJ signals_NN2 ,_, many_DA2 of_IO which_DDQ are_VBR nonverbal_JJ and_CC not_XX easy_JJ for_IF a_AT1 child_NN1 to_TO recognize_VVI ._. 
tell_VV0 her_PPHO1 that_CST a_AT1 friendly_JJ child_NN1 will_VM be_VBI looking_VVG at_II her_PPHO1 ,_, smiling_VVG ,_, gesturing_VVG for_IF her_PPHO1 to_TO come_VVI over_RP ,_, or_CC that_CST her_APPGE body_NN1 posture_NN1 will_VM be_VBI positive_JJ ._. 
Explain_VV0 to_II her_PPHO1 ,_, "_" if_CS there_EX 's_VBZ a_AT1 child_NN1 who_PNQS is_VBZ turned_VVN toward_II you_PPY ,_, not_XX facing_VVG the_AT other_JJ way_NN1 ,_, that_DD1 's_VBZ the_AT child_NN1 to_TO approach_VVI ._. "_" 
For_IF bigger_JJR kids_NN2 :_: schoolage_VV0 kids_NN2 usually_RR have_VH0 the_AT nonverbal_NN1 signals_VVZ down_RP but_CCB tend_VV0 toward_II black_JJ and_CC white_JJ thinking_NN1 ,_, notes_VVZ shapiro._NNU if_CS your_APPGE child_NN1 says_VVZ ,_, "_" But_CCB nobody_PN1 likes_VVZ me_PPIO1 ,_, "_" help_VV0 her_PPHO1 focus_VVI on_II the_AT kids_NN2 who_PNQS do_VD0 ._. 
she_PPHS1 may_VM just_RR need_VVI help_NN1 choosing_VVG the_AT right_JJ group_NN1 to_TO join_VVI ,_, rather_CS21 than_CS22 constantly_RR knocking_VVG on_II closed_JJ doors_NN2 ._. 
"_" What_DDQ parents_NN2 do_VD0 n't_XX realize_VVI is_VBZ that_CST kids_NN2 do_VD0 well_RR with_IW kids_NN2 who_PNQS are_VBR like_II them_PPHO2 ,_, "_" says_VVZ shapiro._NNU if_CS your_APPGE child_NN1 is_VBZ shy_JJ ,_, pair_VV0 her_PPHO1 off_RP with_IW other_JJ shy_JJ kids_NN2 ;_; if_CS she_PPHS1 's_VBZ into_II Star_NN1 Wars_NN2 ,_, steer_VV0 her_PPHO1 to_II other_JJ kids_NN2 who_PNQS like_VV0 Star_NN1 Wars_NN2 ._. 
"_" Friendship_NN1 skills_NN2 are_VBR learned_VVN through_II practice_NN1 ,_, and_CC you_PPY can_VM help_VVI her_PPHO1 find_VV0 the_AT right_JJ kinds_NN2 of_IO friends_NN2 to_II practice_NN1 on_RP ,_, "_" he_PPHS1 adds_VVZ ._. 
How_RRQ to_TO fight_VVI for_IF what_DDQ 's_VBZ right_RR Being_VBG the_AT defender_NN1 of_IO someone_PN1 lower_JJR on_II the_AT social_JJ food_NN1 chain_NN1 than_CSN you_PPY is_VBZ enormously_RR scary-it_PPH1 can_VM feel_VVI as_CS21 though_CS22 your_APPGE entire_JJ social_JJ survival_NN1 is_VBZ at_II stake_NN1 ,_, which_DDQ is_VBZ why_RRQ almost_RR all_DB kids_NN2 need_VV0 help_VV0 to_TO do_VDI so_RR ._. 
Having_VHG both_RR the_AT confidence_NN1 and_CC the_AT moral_JJ judgment_NN1 to_II not_XX only_RR refuse_VV0 to_TO join_VVI in_RP when_CS another_DD1 kid_NN1 is_VBZ being_VBG teased_VVN but_CCB also_RR walk_VV0 away_RL or-even_JJ better-verbally_RR stand_VV0 up_RP for_IF that_DD1 person_NN1 involves_VVZ a_AT1 few_DA2 different_JJ skills_NN2 :_: empathy_NN1 (_( understanding_VVG that_CST the_AT victim_NN1 is_VBZ being_VBG hurt_VVN )_) ,_, the_AT ability_NN1 to_TO strategize_VVI (_( that_REX21 is_REX22 ,_, to_TO devise_VVI a_AT1 course_NN1 of_IO action_NN1 )_) ,_, and_CC the_AT savvy_JJ to_TO anticipate_VVI what_DDQ the_AT other_JJ kids_NN2 will_VM do_VDI ._. 
For_IF little_JJ kids_NN2 :_: Preschool_JJ kids_NN2 are_VBR focused_VVN on_II the_AT rules-and_CC they_PPHS2 know_VV0 that_DD1 teasing_NN1 is_VBZ a_AT1 no-no-so_RR they_PPHS2 're_VBR likely_JJ to_TO go_VVI tell_VV0 an_AT1 adult_NN1 if_CS they_PPHS2 see_VV0 it_PPH1 happening_VVG ._. 
if_CS you_PPY 're_VBR that_DD1 adult_NN1 ,_, emphasize_VV0 basic_JJ empathy_NN1 :_: "_" it_PPH1 's_VBZ good_JJ that_CST you_PPY came_VVD to_TO tell_VVI me_PPIO1 ,_, because_CS would_VM n't_XX that_DD1 make_VVI you_PPY feel_VVI bad_JJ if_CS someone_PN1 called_VVD you_PPY a_AT1 poopiehead_NN1 ?_? "_" this_DD1 helps_VVZ them_PPHO2 recognize_VVI what_DDQ that_DD1 emotion_NN1 feels_VVZ like_II and_CC makes_VVZ them_PPHO2 want_VVI to_TO cushion_VVI others_NN2 against_II feeling_VVG hurt_JJ ,_, says_VVZ schiller_NN1 ._. 
on_II the_AT other_JJ hand_NN1 ,_, if_CS you_PPY 're_VBR speaking_VVG to_II the_AT child_NN1 doing_VDG the_AT teasing_NN1 or_CC bullying_NN1 ,_, walk_VV0 her_PPHO1 through_II that_DD1 same_DA scenario-_NN1 "_" What_DDQ if_CS someone_PN1 did_VDD that_DD1 to_II you_PPY ?_? 
How_RRQ do_VD0 you_PPY think_VVI it_PPH1 would_VM make_VVI you_PPY feel_VVI ?_? "_" -so_CS she_PPHS1 becomes_VVZ familiar_JJ with_IW empathy_NN1 for_IF others_NN2 ,_, too_RR ._. 
simple_JJ repetition_NN1 and_CC practice_NN1 putting_VVG herself_PPX1 in_II someone_PN1 else_RR 's_GE sneakers_NN2 (_( "_" What_DDQ do_VD0 you_PPY think_VVI it_PPH1 feels_VVZ like_JJ to_TO isabel_VVI when_RRQ olivia_NN1 says_VVZ she_PPHS1 ca_VM n't_XX play_VVI ?_? "_" )_) is_VBZ the_AT key_NN1 to_II helping_VVG young_JJ children_NN2 develop_VV0 empathy_NN1 ._. 
For_IF bigger_JJR kids_NN2 :_: the_AT stakes_NN2 are_VBR quite_RG a_RR21 bit_RR22 higher_JJR for_IF school-age_JJ children_NN2 who_PNQS now_RT have_VH0 cliques_NN2 and_CC BFFs_NP1 they_PPHS2 feel_VV0 they_PPHS2 need_VVI to_TO be_VBI loyal_JJ to_TO ._. 
Plus_NN1 ,_, it_PPH1 's_VBZ no_AT longer_JJR cool_JJ to_TO go_VVI running_VVG to_II a_AT1 teacher_NN1 or_CC parent_NN1 for_IF help_NN1 after_II age_NN1 6_MC or_CC 7._MC that_DD1 's_VBZ why_RRQ it_PPH1 becomes_VVZ important_JJ to_TO give_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 some_DD in-themoment_JJ strategies_NN2 to_TO cope_VVI with_IW "_" groupthink_NN1 ,_, "_" emphasizes_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
start_VV0 by_II doing_VDG a_AT1 postmortem_NN1 :_: ask_VV0 her_PPHO1 for_IF a_AT1 blow-by-blow_NN1 of_IO a_AT1 painful_JJ incident_NN1 ,_, one_PN1 in_II which_DDQ your_APPGE child_NN1 did_VDD n't_XX know_VVI what_DDQ to_TO do_VDI ,_, then_RT brainstorm_VV0 ideas_NN2 for_IF when_RRQ a_AT1 similar_JJ situation_NN1 arises_VVZ in_II the_AT future_NN1 ._. 
"_" talk_VV0 about_II what_DDQ sort_NN1 of_IO response_NN1 feels_VVZ comfortable_JJ to_II her_PPHO1 ,_, and_CC ask_VV0 her_PPHO1 to_TO come_VVI up_RP with_IW different_JJ ideas_NN2 ,_, "_" says_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
that_DD1 might_VM mean_VVI creating_VVG a_AT1 distraction_NN1 if_CS that_DD1 will_VM take_VVI the_AT focus_NN1 off_II the_AT person_NN1 being_VBG targeted_VVN ;_; inviting_VVG the_AT person_NN1 getting_VVG teased_JJ to_TO play_VVI something_PN1 apart_II21 from_II22 the_AT group_NN1 ;_; or_CC consoling_VVG the_AT aggrieved_JJ party_NN1 after_II the_AT fact_NN1 ,_, and_CC standing_VVG up_II21 to_II22 the_AT teaser_NN1 later_RRR ._. 
Encourage_VV0 her_PPHO1 to_TO say_VVI something_PN1 like_II "_" i_MC1 heard_VVD what_DDQ you_PPY said_VVD to_II Kira_NP1 yesterday_RT ,_, and_CC i_ZZ1 thought_VVD it_PPH1 was_VBDZ totally_RR not_XX cool_JJ ._. 
i_MC1 do_VD0 n't_XX want_VVI to_TO hang_VVI out_RP with_IW people_NN who_PNQS act_VV0 that_DD1 way_NN1 ._. "_" 
"_" it_PPH1 's_VBZ going_VVGK to_TO be_VBI different_JJ from_II school_NN1 to_II school_NN1 ,_, from_II peer_NN1 group_NN1 to_TO peer_VVI group_NN1 ,_, "_" says_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
"_" the_AT more_RGR you_PPY go_VV0 over_RP these_DD2 situations_NN2 with_IW them_PPHO2 ,_, the_AT more_RGR readily_RR accessible_JJ the_AT options_NN2 will_VM be_VBI the_AT next_MD time_NNT1 ._. "_" 
How_RRQ to_TO be_VBI a_AT1 good_JJ actor_NN1 Being_VBG the_AT Streep_NP1 or_CC the_AT De_NP1 niro_NN1 of_IO the_AT playground_NN1 means_VVZ knowing_VVG which_DDQ emotions_NN2 to_TO reveal_VVI and_CC which_DDQ ones_NN2 are_VBR better_RRR kept_VVN under_II wraps_NN2 ,_, to_TO be_VBI expressed_VVN later_RRR ._. 
it_PPH1 also_RR means_VVZ learning_VVG how_RRQ to_TO be_VBI less_DAR than_CSN honest_JJ at_II times_NNT2 for_IF the_AT sake_NN1 of_IO others_NN2 '_GE feelings_NN2 ._. 
You_PPY will_VM no_AT doubt_NN1 teach_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 to_TO say_VVI to_II his_APPGE well-meaning_JJ great-aunt_NN1 who_PNQS did_VDD n't_XX get_VVI him_PPHO1 a_AT1 Wii_JJ game_NN1 ,_, "_" thank_VV0 you_PPY ,_, i_ZZ1 can_VM really_RR use_VVI these_DD2 thermal_JJ socks_NN2 ,_, "_" even_CS21 though_CS22 the_AT emotion_NN1 he_PPHS1 's_VBZ actually_RR feeling_VVG is_VBZ complete_JJ and_CC utter_JJ disappointment_NN1 ._. 
that_DD1 's_VBZ called_VVN being_VBG polite_JJ ._. 
the_AT same_DA principle_NN1 can_VM apply_VVI when_RRQ he_PPHS1 's_VBZ dealing_VVG with_IW other_JJ kids_NN2 ,_, says_VVZ rich_JJ ._. 
For_IF little_JJ kids_NN2 :_: at_II this_DD1 age_NN1 ,_, learning_VVG to_TO be_VBI polite_JJ (_( aka_NN1 faking_VVG his_APPGE real_JJ feelings_NN2 )_) is_VBZ all_DB about_II impulse_NN1 control_NN1 ._. 
you_PPY can_VM help_VVI him_PPHO1 learn_VVI not_XX to_TO blurt_VVI out_RP "_" But_CCB i_MC1 did_VDD n't_XX waaaaannnt_VVI socks_NN2 for_IF my_APPGE birthday_NN1 "_" by_II giving_VVG him_PPHO1 clear_JJ guidelines_NN2 ,_, notes_VVZ schiller_NN1 ._. 
saying_NN1 "_" Whenever_RRQV you_PPY get_VV0 a_AT1 gift_NN1 ,_, i_ZZ1 want_VV0 you_PPY to_TO say_VVI 'thank_NN1 you'_NNU even_CS21 if_CS22 you_PPY really_RR do_VD0 n't_XX like_VVI it_PPH1 "_" is_VBZ being_VBG clear_JJ ._. 
saying_NN1 "_" Be_VBI nice_JJ to_II auntie_NN1 Kim_NP1 "_" ?_? not_XX so_RG much_DA1 ._. 
later_RRR ,_, explain_VV0 why_RRQ shelving_NN1 his_APPGE feelings_NN2 is_VBZ important_JJ (_( "_" auntie_NN1 Kim_NP1 tried_VVD really_RR hard_JJ to_TO get_VVI you_PPY something_PN1 you_PPY 'd_VM like_VVI "_" )_) and_CC let_VVI him_PPHO1 say_VV0 what_DDQ he_PPHS1 wants_VVZ about_II the_AT stupid_JJ socks_NN2 ._. 
For_IF bigger_JJR kids_NN2 :_: Explain_VV0 why_RRQ "_" acting_NN1 "_" can_VM be_VBI to_II his_APPGE advantage_NN1 ._. 
For_REX21 instance_REX22 ,_, "_" Everybody_PN1 gets_VVZ teased_JJ sometimes_RT ,_, but_CCB if_CS you_PPY do_VD0 n't_XX let_VVI on_RP to_II the_AT bully_NN1 that_CST he_PPHS1 's_VBZ pushing_VVG your_APPGE buttons_NN2 ,_, he_PPHS1 'll_VM stop_VVI ._. 
instead_II21 of_II22 showing_VVG that_CST you_PPY 're_VBR upset_VVN ,_, you_PPY roll_VV0 your_APPGE eyes_NN2 and_CC walk_VV0 away_RL ._. "_" 
the_AT important_JJ thing_NN1 at_II this_DD1 age_NN1 ,_, notes_NN2 shapiro_VV0 ,_, is_VBZ to_TO help_VVI your_APPGE child_NN1 discern_VV0 between_II telling_VVG a_AT1 white_JJ lie_NN1 for_IF the_AT right_JJ reasons_NN2 and_CC the_AT wrong_JJ ones_NN2 ._. 
When_CS an_AT1 older_JJR kid_NN1 is_VBZ asked_VVN "_" How_RRQ does_VDZ my_APPGE hair_NN1 look_VVI ?_? "_" it_PPH1 's_VBZ hurtful_JJ to_TO respond_VVI "_" awful_JJ !_! "_" even_CS21 if_CS22 that_DD1 's_VBZ what_DDQ he_PPHS1 really_RR thinks_VVZ ,_, explains_VVZ shapiro_NN1 ._. 
He_PPHS1 needs_VVZ to_TO recognize_VVI that_CST a_AT1 response_NN1 like_II "_" Fine_JJ "_" or_CC even_RR "_" Good_JJ ,_, but_CCB i_MC1 really_RR like_II it_PPH1 when_CS you_PPY wear_VV0 a_AT1 ponytail_NN1 "_" is_VBZ the_AT tactful_JJ and_CC empathetic_JJ approach_NN1 ._. 
But_CCB when_CS you_PPY ask_VV0 him_PPHO1 "_" Did_VDD you_PPY finish_VVI your_APPGE project_NN1 ?_? "_" saying_NN1 yes_UH when_CS he_PPHS1 did_VDD n't_XX is_VBZ the_AT wrong_JJ kind_NN1 of_IO faking_VVG it-you_PPY ca_VM n't_XX gild_VVI the_AT lily_NN1 to_TO get_VVI away_RL with_IW something_PN1 ._. 
How_RRQ to_TO question_VVI authority_NN1 When_CS you_PPY 're_VBR at_II your_APPGE wit_NN1 's_GE end_NN1 ,_, a_AT1 child_NN1 who_PNQS does_VDZ what_DDQ you_PPY tell_VV0 him_PPHO1 to_TO do_VDI is_VBZ certainly_RR a_AT1 blessing_NN1 ._. 
But_CCB a_AT1 kid_NN1 who_PNQS questions_VVZ authority-and_CC manages_VVZ to_TO do_VDI so_RG respectfully_RR and_CC effectively-is_VBZ a_AT1 kid_NN1 who_PNQS will_VM do_VDI well_RR for_IF himself_PPX1 in_II the_AT long_JJ run_NN1 ._. 
the_AT boy_NN1 who_PNQS can_VM make_VVI a_AT1 polite_JJ and_CC compelling_JJ case_NN1 for_IF why_RRQ he_PPHS1 needs_VVZ to_TO ,_, say_VV0 ,_, get_VV0 the_AT black_JJ high-tops_NN2 everyone_PN1 else_RR has_VHZ instead_II21 of_II22 the_AT dorky_JJ white_JJ ones_NN2 is_VBZ more_RGR likely_JJ to_TO get_VVI his_APPGE way_NN1 ,_, and_CC to_TO do_VDI so_RR without_IW angering_VVG the_AT holder_NN1 of_IO the_AT purse_NN1 strings_NN2 in_II the_AT process_NN1 ._. 
this_DD1 is_VBZ a_AT1 child_NN1 who_PNQS will_VM grow_VVI up_RP to_TO be_VBI someone_PN1 other_JJ adults_NN2 respect_NN1 and_CC want_VV0 to_TO negotiate_VVI with_IW ._. 
