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<s>哈喽大家好这里是金金呆笑</s>
<time>2_00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:12,800</time>
<s>我是金金</s>
<time>3_00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:14,200</time>
<s>我是呆呆我是笑笑</s>
<time>4_00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:16,600</time>
<s>今天其实也是非常巧合</s>
<time>5_00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:18,400</time>
<s>我们本来是想要</s>
<time>6_00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:20,000</time>
<s>姐妹几个来一个girls night</s>
<time>7_00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:21,200</time>
<s>喝点小酒</s>
<time>8_00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:21,800</time>
<s>聊聊天</s>
<time>9_00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:24,800</time>
<s>结果突然发现我们在聊的一些事</s>
<time>10_00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:27,800</time>
<s>其实可能会在大家看来有一些共鸣的感受</s>
<time>11_00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:29,400</time>
<s>我就打开摄像机想说</s>
<time>12_00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:31,000</time>
<s>这次比较轻松一点啊</s>
<time>13_00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:32,800</time>
<s>其实刚刚就是聊到了</s>
<time>14_00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:34,200</time>
<s>30岁之前</s>
<time>15_00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:37,200</time>
<s>我们有哪些比较重大的人生转折</s>
<time>16_00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:38,400</time>
<s>或者说遗憾</s>
<time>17_00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:40,600</time>
<s>那先从转折开始吧</s>
<time>18_00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:44,400</time>
<s>我是从18岁开始正经的叛逆</s>
<time>19_00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:45,400</time>
<s>哈哈哈一</s>
<time>20_00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,600</time>
<s>18岁之前我都特别特别的乖</s>
<time>21_00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,400</time>
<s>是那种别人家的孩子的乖乖女</s>
<time>22_00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:55,000</time>
<s>但是就在18岁那个把我自己关进机房</s>
<time>23_00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:58,400</time>
<s>要让我独立把高考志愿报完的那一瞬间</s>
<time>24_00:00:58,400 --> 00:00:59,400</time>
<s>一我就觉得</s>
<time>25_00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,800</time>
<s>我是一个独立行走的大写的人了</s>
<time>26_00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,400</time>
<s>从此以后的人生终于是我自己做主</s>
<time>27_00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,600</time>
<s>再也没有那些七七八八的声音</s>
<time>28_00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:09,200</time>
<s>在高考之前</s>
<time>29_00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:11,400</time>
<s>我觉得大部分中国孩子都是</s>
<time>30_00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,600</time>
<s>父母老师说“这个好，冲！</s><s>那个好，上！”</s>
<time>31_00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:16,800</time>
<s>哈哈</s>
<time>32_00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:19,800</time>
<s>但是从高考报志愿开始</s>
<time>33_00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:23,000</time>
<s>你的人生就没有一个绝对的正确了</s>
<time>34_00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:25,000</time>
<s>并且不管你做什么决策</s>
<time>35_00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:26,800</time>
<s>你都必须要做一个成年人</s>
<time>36_00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:28,400</time>
<s>自己对他负责</s>
<time>37_00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:30,800</time>
<s>其实对我来说</s>
<time>38_00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:33,000</time>
<s>高考也是我人生的重大转折</s>
<time>39_00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:34,400</time>
<s>但是可能方向正好相反</s>
<time>40_00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,400</time>
<s>所以我现在想先问问周围的声音难道不好吗</s>
<time>41_00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:40,800</time>
<s>就是有更多的一些人给你一些观点的输入</s>
<time>42_00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:44,200</time>
<s>让你更客观或者更全面的看待</s>
<time>43_00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,400</time>
<s>比如说高考报志愿的这件事情</s>
<time>44_00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:48,600</time>
<s>我感谢所有的输入</s>
<time>45_00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:53,200</time>
<s>但是当这个输入量足够大的时候</s>
<time>46_00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,600</time>
<s>我会意识到没有一个压倒性的声音</s>
<time>47_00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,000</time>
<s>我必须要选一个</s>
<time>48_00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,800</time>
<s>然后选哪个这件事情其实是一种压力</s>
<time>49_00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,200</time>
<s>但这是一个成年人必须要自己承担的压力</s>
<time>50_00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,600</time>
<s>我现在会有点后悔说我当时</s>
<time>51_00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:10,400</time>
<s>把高考作为一个节点</s>
<time>52_00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:14,800</time>
<s>而没有把就是真正的报志愿、读大学作为一个节点</s>
<time>53_00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,200</time>
<s>就觉得之前18岁的这种</s>
<time>54_00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:19,800</time>
<s>苦行僧一样的生活结束了</s>
<time>55_00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:21,600</time>
<s>我开始自由了、开始撒欢了</s>
<time>56_00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:23,600</time>
<s>但其实我们当时那个年代</s>
<time>57_00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:24,800</time>
<s>还是估分报志愿</s>
<time>58_00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,200</time>
<s>在你不知道分数的时候盲目地报</s>
<time>59_00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:30,800</time>
<s>我当时是也没有特别多信息的输入</s>
<time>60_00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:32,000</time>
<s>不是非常全面</s>
<time>61_00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,000</time>
<s>而且那个时候信息也比较闭塞</s>
<time>62_00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,400</time>
<s>一方面是因为老师说</s>
<time>63_00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:40,000</time>
<s>报我们当时省内最好的那个财经院校</s>
<time>64_00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:42,200</time>
<s>未来的就业很容易</s>
<time>65_00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:43,400</time>
<s>找工作不愁，</s>
<time>66_00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,400</time>
<s>导致我们班可能将近一半的人</s>
<time>67_00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:48,200</time>
<s>都报了这所大学</s>
<time>68_00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:49,200</time>
<s>自己卷自己</s>
<time>69_00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:51,600</time>
<s>报志愿，其实就是出现了比较重大的失误</s>
<time>70_00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:53,200</time>
<s>大家扎堆报了这个学校</s>
<time>71_00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,000</time>
<s>导致这个学校的分数在那一年非常的高</s>
<time>72_00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:57,600</time>
<s>当时那个年纪</s>
<time>73_00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:00,600</time>
<s>师长们对于你来说的</s>
<time>74_00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,400</time>
<s>这种意见的重要性可太重了</s>
<time>75_00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,200</time>
<s>老师说的在你认为就是真理</s>
<time>76_00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:08,600</time>
<s>然后又恰好周围没有其他的声音</s>
<time>77_00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,000</time>
<s>让你质疑这个权威</s>
<time>78_00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:14,000</time>
<s>而且我的一些脑海中蹦出的小想法</s>
<time>79_00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:17,000</time>
<s>我也不太清楚未来的人生该怎么走</s>
<time>80_00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:18,800</time>
<s>我只知道我坚决不要做什么</s>
<time>81_00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,800</time>
<s>我不要学什么相关的专业</s>
<time>82_00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:22,200</time>
<s>但我没有一个概念说</s>
<time>83_00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:23,400</time>
<s>我想要过什么样的人生</s>
<time>84_00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:24,800</time>
<s>没有想清楚这些事</s>
<time>85_00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,800</time>
<s>18岁对于中国孩子来说</s>
<time>86_00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,200</time>
<s>18岁简直就是还跟小孩一样</s>
<time>87_00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:33,400</time>
<s>然后……</s><s>而且另一方面呢</s>
<time>88_00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:35,600</time>
<s>我后来选择那个学校可能也很简单</s>
<time>89_00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:36,200</time>
<s>在海边一</s>
<time>90_00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,000</time>
<s>我很喜欢大海然后</s>
<time>91_00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:40,800</time>
<s>一还有就是</s>
<time>92_00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:43,600</time>
<s>总觉得沿海的城市经济还是要比</s>
<time>93_00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:45,000</time>
<s>内陆城市要发达一些</s>
<time>94_00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,600</time>
<s>当然这些回过头来再看就是</s>
<time>95_00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,000</time>
<s>我并不后悔当时做了这样的选择</s>
<time>96_00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:51,800</time>
<s>我只是说</s>
<time>97_00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:55,200</time>
<s>如果现在再给30岁的我这样一个机会</s>
<time>98_00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,600</time>
<s>能够让我回到过去</s>
<time>99_00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:58,800</time>
<s>修改一下当时的人生决定</s>
<time>100_00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,800</time>
<s>我可能会重新的再去评估考量</s>
<time>101_00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:03,600</time>
<s>把所有的选择拿到牌桌上</s>
<time>102_00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,400</time>
<s>理性的进行一些分析和比较</s>
<time>103_00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:06,400</time>
<s>你会重新填</s>
<time>104_00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:08,600</time>
<s>各个学校的优劣势是什么样的</s>
<time>105_00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:10,200</time>
<s>城市的考量因素</s>
<time>106_00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,800</time>
<s>然后学校是否是综合性的大学</s>
<time>107_00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:14,400</time>
<s>专业的考量因素</s>
<time>108_00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,400</time>
<s>包括未来的就业的是否有利于就业</s>
<time>109_00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:21,000</time>
<s>甚至是否有利于我申请出国读书</s>
<time>110_00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,800</time>
<s>这些维度我都会考量到</s>
<time>111_00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:23,800</time>
<s>而不是一，</s>
<time>112_00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,600</time>
<s>因为老师说的财经类院校好找工作</s>
<time>113_00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,200</time>
<s>就很草率的</s>
<time>114_00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:30,200</time>
<s>我们18年的煎熬</s>
<time>115_00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:31,200</time>
<s>都过来了</s>
<time>116_00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:32,800</time>
<s>最后真的是因为差那些</s>
<time>117_00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:33,600</time>
<s>临门一脚了</s>
<time>118_00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:35,000</time>
<s>很小的一些</s>
<time>119_00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:36,600</time>
<s>也有一点小小的逃避心态</s>
<time>120_00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:39,000</time>
<s>然后这时候求助于一个权威</s>
<time>121_00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:40,000</time>
<s>老师说的就是对的</s>
<time>122_00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:41,400</time>
<s>的这种心态</s>
<time>123_00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:43,000</time>
<s>然后去报了这个志愿</s>
<time>124_00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:43,800</time>
<s>所以说</s>
<time>125_00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:47,800</time>
<s>你说它是人生转折吧</s>
<time>126_00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:49,600</time>
<s>转折听起来是一个很重大的事</s>
<time>127_00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,000</time>
<s>我觉得你说它重大呢</s>
<time>128_00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:53,400</time>
<s>其实也非常重大</s>
<time>129_00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,400</time>
<s>因为从那一次之后开始</s>
<time>130_00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:57,800</time>
<s>我每做一个决定</s>
<time>131_00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,800</time>
<s>都会去衡量这件事的优势和劣势</s>
<time>132_00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:02,400</time>
<s>我还有没有其他的选择</s>
<time>133_00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,400</time>
<s>不带有自己主观色彩的去评价</s>
<time>134_00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:07,600</time>
<s>先把这些客观上存在的一些选择</s>
<time>135_00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:08,600</time>
<s>放到牌桌上</s>
<time>136_00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:09,600</time>
<s>把牌都列出来</s>
<time>137_00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:11,400</time>
<s>把所有的选择都列出来</s>
<time>138_00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:12,600</time>
<s>然后先用排除法</s>
<time>139_00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,800</time>
<s>排除几个我坚决不想要的选择</s>
<time>140_00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:17,000</time>
<s>然后再去对比分析优劣势</s>
<time>141_00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,400</time>
<s>当然这是一项非常大的工程</s>
<time>142_00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:20,000</time>
<s>我每次在做决定的时候</s>
<time>143_00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:22,600</time>
<s>不是那种能够快速的决策</s>
<time>144_00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:23,400</time>
<s>你需要很长时间（也很累）</s>
<time>145_00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,600</time>
<s>我需要去大量的收集资料收集信息</s>
<time>146_00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:28,800</time>
<s>但是我做了这件事情我会特别安心</s>
<time>147_00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,400</time>
<s>就是我做到了我能做到的最好</s>
<time>148_00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,000</time>
<s>我尽了我的全力</s>
<time>149_00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,800</time>
<s>让我在现在这个认知范畴里面</s>
<time>150_00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:37,600</time>
<s>能够收集到足够多的信息</s>
<time>151_00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,400</time>
<s>去辅助我做出相对客观理性的决策</s>
<time>152_00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:41,800</time>
<s>这是我后面</s>
<time>153_00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:45,400</time>
<s>人生在做其他很多的抉择</s>
<time>154_00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,200</time>
<s>比如说再去择业</s>
<time>155_00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,000</time>
<s>都是这样去做了所以我就觉得</s>
<time>156_00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:54,000</time>
<s>你是在用后面的每一个决定去治愈和找补</s>
<time>157_00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:55,400</time>
<s>前面的那一个</s>
<time>158_00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,200</time>
<s>说实话有一点点吧</s>
<time>159_00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:01,200</time>
<s>而且其实我不怪也不怨任何人</s>
<time>160_00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:03,400</time>
<s>我也不怪当时的自己</s>
<time>161_00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,600</time>
<s>因为当时的自己认知就是有限的</s>
<time>162_00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,400</time>
<s>其实我在那个学校过得非常快乐</s>
<time>163_00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:10,200</time>
<s>而且成绩也很优秀</s>
<time>164_00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:13,800</time>
<s>后面的结果，找的实习工作一切都很好</s>
<time>165_00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:17,000</time>
<s>只不过当我再回首过去的时候</s>
<time>166_00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:20,400</time>
<s>我的现在的想法就是，第一，</s>
<time>167_00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:22,400</time>
<s>其实没有任何一个转折</s>
<time>168_00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:24,000</time>
<s>会真正的影响你的一生</s>
<time>169_00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:26,000</time>
<s>因为我后来过得也都非常好</s>
<time>170_00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:29,000</time>
<s>就是所谓的决定或者是转折</s>
<time>171_00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:30,200</time>
<s>他之所以重大</s>
<time>172_00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:32,600</time>
<s>原因并不在于说</s>
<time>173_00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,000</time>
<s>某一个转折就会导致你的人生</s>
<time>174_00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:37,600</time>
<s>一定会成功还是一定会失败</s>
<time>175_00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,400</time>
<s>而是说它可能在潜移默化中</s>
<time>176_00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:46,600</time>
<s>去改变你未来很多个选择或者做决策的方式</s>
<time>177_00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:47,800</time>
<s>这是我想说</s>
<time>178_00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:50,400</time>
<s>这算是我人生比较重大一个转折的原因</s>
<time>179_00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:52,800</time>
<s>我觉得这个其实是像</s>
<time>180_00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:56,000</time>
<s>国内的教育和国外的教育的区别</s>
<time>181_00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:56,600</time>
<s>因为在</s>
<time>182_00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,600</time>
<s>我当时申请大学国外大学的时候</s>
<time>183_00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:01,000</time>
<s>我是在高中</s>
<time>184_00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:05,000</time>
<s>上过很多选修课里面包括经济、会计</s>
<time>185_00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:07,200</time>
<s>国际贸易</s>
<time>186_00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:09,000</time>
<s>marketing（市场营销)这些的</s>
<time>187_00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,800</time>
<s>所以我当时是已经知道了</s>
<time>188_00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:14,200</time>
<s>我有哪些专业是我喜欢和不喜欢的</s>
<time>189_00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:17,200</time>
<s>所以当我在填大学志愿的时候</s>
<time>190_00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:18,600</time>
<s>我当时填了7个志愿</s>
<time>191_00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,600</time>
<s>然后都是选择我喜欢的方向</s>
<time>192_00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:23,200</time>
<s>然后最后根据</s>
<time>193_00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,000</time>
<s>我最后收到的offer</s>
<time>194_00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:26,000</time>
<s>然后来选择</s>
<time>195_00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,400</time>
<s>最优的或者我最喜欢的地方</s>
<time>196_00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:31,000</time>
<s>所以这个方式</s>
<time>197_00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:34,400</time>
<s>其实也变相的把所谓这个一次</s>
<time>198_00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,200</time>
<s>临门一脚这种这种负担给提下来了</s>
<time>199_00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,400</time>
<s>我会有很更多的时间去分析</s>
<time>200_00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:41,200</time>
<s>然后去决定未来的人生了</s>
<time>201_00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,800</time>
<s>我看来还是有点感慨的</s>
<time>202_00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:44,800</time>
<s>这个事一</s>
<time>203_00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:47,200</time>
<s>并不是说国内的教育和国外的教育</s>
<time>204_00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:47,800</time>
<s>哪个就是好</s>
<time>205_00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:48,600</time>
<s>一哪个不好</s>
<time>206_00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:49,800</time>
<s>但是我发现</s>
<time>207_00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,400</time>
<s>这件事情很有意思的点在于</s>
<time>208_00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:53,200</time>
<s>考大学或者</s>
<time>209_00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,800</time>
<s>读大学的这样一件非常重要的事</s>
<time>210_00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:57,600</time>
<s>但是国外的这种教育</s>
<time>211_00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:01,800</time>
<s>把它稀释在了一段时间内去做这个决定</s>
<time>212_00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:05,800</time>
<s>给你一些尝试和去收集信息（试错）</s>
<time>213_00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,400</time>
<s>知道的更详细的一些机会</s>
<time>214_00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,800</time>
<s>而国内的这个时间浓度</s>
<time>215_00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:12,800</time>
<s>特别的集中在了某一个点</s>
<time>216_00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,400</time>
<s>就是前面的18岁大家都在寒窗苦读</s>
<time>217_00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:18,000</time>
<s>而18岁之后报志愿的一个点</s>
<time>218_00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,000</time>
<s>你突然要对自己的人生负责</s>
<time>219_00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:21,200</time>
<s>我甚至觉得</s>
<time>220_00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,400</time>
<s>就是前面的学习考试这件事情</s>
<time>221_00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:26,200</time>
<s>和报志愿这件事情是几乎同等重要</s>
<time>222_00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:28,600</time>
<s>对报志愿也是讲究策略的</s>
<time>223_00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,200</time>
<s>但是在我们还小的时候</s>
<time>224_00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,800</time>
<s>把这样一个决定交给18岁的孩子</s>
<time>225_00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:34,200</time>
<s>这是要求多么高的事情</s>
<time>226_00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:35,400</time>
<s>对任何人都是这样</s>
<time>227_00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:37,200</time>
<s>当然我们其实是非常幸运的</s>
<time>228_00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:38,600</time>
<s>我们是幸存者</s>
<time>229_00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:39,800</time>
<s>就算我们今天在这说</s>
<time>230_00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:41,000</time>
<s>这是我们人生重大的转折</s>
<time>231_00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:43,800</time>
<s>但说实话我们过得都非常好</s>
<time>232_00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:45,800</time>
<s>我们最后去的学校也都非常不错</s>
<time>233_00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:47,000</time>
<s>只不过没有想象中的</s>
<time>234_00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:48,200</time>
<s>一那么理想</s>
<time>235_00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:50,000</time>
<s>但是最后的结果都非常不错</s>
<time>236_00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,800</time>
<s>但是有多少孩子的一辈子或者一生</s>
<time>237_00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,600</time>
<s>就非常看重这一个节点的选择</s>
<time>238_00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:57,200</time>
<s>所以这也是我想说的吧</s>
<time>239_00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:01,000</time>
<s>就是没有任何一个节点的选择</s>
<time>240_00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,200</time>
<s>是重大到会影响你的一生</s>
<time>241_00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:05,200</time>
<s>它之所以重大其实</s>
<time>242_00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:07,000</time>
<s>就是因为</s>
<time>243_00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:10,000</time>
<s>可能会影响到后面你做很多决策的一些</s>
<time>244_00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:11,800</time>
<s>方式、方法和逻辑</s>
<time>245_00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:13,400</time>
<s>这方面来讲它是重大的</s>
<time>246_00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:16,800</time>
<s>但另一方面讲你的人生永远有机会</s>
<time>247_00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:18,800</time>
<s>我其实挺感谢这个科技发展的</s>
<time>248_00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:21,400</time>
<s>因为网络可以让我们有更多的</s>
<time>249_00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:22,600</time>
<s>更宽广的眼界</s>
<time>250_00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:23,600</time>
<s>包括比如在b站</s>
<time>251_00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:25,200</time>
<s>就可以看到很多很多视频</s>
<time>252_00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:26,400</time>
<s>去了解各行各业</s>
<time>253_00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:27,800</time>
<s>特别像b站的宣传片</s>
<time>254_00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,000</time>
<s>一哈哈哈哈</s>
<time>255_00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:32,400</time>
<s>起码在不了解某一个行业的时候</s>
<time>256_00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:34,000</time>
<s>你其实可以去搜视频</s>
<time>257_00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,000</time>
<s>去通过一个第三视角</s>
<time>258_00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,000</time>
<s>去了解这个行业</s>
<time>259_00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:39,800</time>
<s>或者这个学科之类的</s>
<time>260_00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,200</time>
<s>我觉得这个其实也是</s>
<time>261_00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,400</time>
<s>在变相地给这些学生帮助</s>
<time>262_00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:47,200</time>
<s>现在的信息其实真的是越来越丰富了</s>
<time>263_00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,600</time>
<s>就是大家获取信息的方式其实很多种</s>
<time>264_00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,200</time>
<s>现在孩子其实很幸福</s>
<time>265_00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:52,600</time>
<s>但是他们有他们的烦恼</s>
<time>266_00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:54,400</time>
<s>就是信息太多了我怎么去选择</s>
<time>267_00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:55,600</time>
<s>挺有意思的这件事</s>
<time>268_00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:57,600</time>
<s>一没有想到</s>
<time>269_00:09:57,600 --> 00:09:59,200</time>
<s>对我们来说竟然都是</s>
<time>270_00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:00,600</time>
<s>很重大的一个转折</s>
<time>271_00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,600</time>
<s>可能对于每一个中国孩子来说都是吧</s>
<time>272_00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:04,400</time>
<s>嗯</s>
<time>273_00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,200</time>
<s>那到目前为止的人生有什么遗憾吗</s>
<time>274_00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:11,800</time>
<s>其实有一点吧</s>
<time>275_00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:15,400</time>
<s>就是我确实是放弃了</s>
<time>276_00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,000</time>
<s>外人世俗眼中这个还不错的工作</s>
<time>277_00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:22,000</time>
<s>然后义无反顾地回国</s>
<time>278_00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:23,400</time>
<s>但其实我也不后悔</s>
<time>279_00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:25,800</time>
<s>我觉得这个就是我想要的生活</s>
<time>280_00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,800</time>
<s>就是一个我想完成的目标</s>
<time>281_00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:29,000</time>
<s>所以你要说遗憾</s>
<time>282_00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,000</time>
<s>也说不上有多么多么的遗憾</s>
<time>283_00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:32,600</time>
<s>确实他一</s>
<time>284_00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:37,000</time>
<s>让我从一个国外的这种可能比较</s>
<time>285_00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:38,400</time>
<s>chill（放松）的环境吧</s>
<time>286_00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,400</time>
<s>然后到回到了国内</s>
<time>287_00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,400</time>
<s>其实是完全不太一样的这个环境</s>
<time>288_00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:46,400</time>
<s>当时是有一个比较稳定的工作</s>
<time>289_00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:48,000</time>
<s>然后拿的职级呢</s>
<time>290_00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:49,200</time>
<s>也还是挺好的</s>
<time>291_00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,200</time>
<s>我比较幸运的是</s>
<time>292_00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,600</time>
<s>当时带我的一个姐姐，我的经理</s>
<time>293_00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,400</time>
<s>她升职非常快，她能力非常强</s>
<time>294_00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,200</time>
<s>她当时对我是特别提拔的</s>
<time>295_00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:01,400</time>
<s>但是我又觉得</s>
<time>296_00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,000</time>
<s>回国是一件我非常非常想要做的事情</s>
<time>297_00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:08,600</time>
<s>所以我在还没有来得及升职之前</s>
<time>298_00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:11,600</time>
<s>就先决定回国来读这个书</s>
<time>299_00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:13,800</time>
<s>然后让我去了解这个</s>
<time>300_00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,200</time>
<s>这个大陆市场的环境</s>
<time>301_00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:18,200</time>
<s>中间是有些小遗憾的</s>
<time>302_00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:20,000</time>
<s>因为如果我留在</s>
<time>303_00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:21,200</time>
<s>当时的公司</s>
<time>304_00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,600</time>
<s>我可能整个career</s>
<time>305_00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,000</time>
<s>整个晋升的路</s>
<time>306_00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:26,400</time>
<s>晋升路径是非常</s>
<time>307_00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:28,400</time>
<s>相对比较顺畅的</s>
<time>308_00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:30,800</time>
<s>而且我从刚进的公司开始</s>
<time>309_00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:34,000</time>
<s>就是以一个比较高的职位进去的</s>
<time>310_00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:37,400</time>
<s>所以确实是放弃了一些东西</s>
<time>311_00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:39,400</time>
<s>一些别人看相对平稳的生活</s>
<time>312_00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:41,600</time>
<s>我也特别想采访采访你</s>
<time>313_00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:44,000</time>
<s>其实现在大家很多人真的都说</s>
<time>314_00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,400</time>
<s>国内的这个就业市场也好</s>
<time>315_00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,000</time>
<s>包括甚至于婚恋市场都特别的卷</s>
<time>316_00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,200</time>
<s>你为什么要回到国内的这个环境</s>
<time>317_00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:52,400</time>
<s>你是怎么考虑的</s>
<time>318_00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:55,200</time>
<s>其实第一个考虑元素还是家人</s>
<time>319_00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:57,400</time>
<s>就是我希望陪在家人身边</s>
<time>320_00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:58,400</time>
<s>然后第二个</s>
<time>321_00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:02,200</time>
<s>也是我很希望我能看到更宽广的世界</s>
<time>322_00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,200</time>
<s>就是在国外的这个环境</s>
<time>323_00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,200</time>
<s>其实相对还是比较窄的</s>
<time>324_00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,800</time>
<s>（但）中国的机会是非常非常多的</s>
<time>325_00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,200</time>
<s>我觉得这个是我非常想去挑战的事情</s>
<time>326_00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:13,400</time>
<s>能够不断的提升进步</s>
<time>327_00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:14,200</time>
<s>成长和挑战</s>
<time>328_00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,600</time>
<s>是我个人一个小小人生目标吧</s>
<time>329_00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:18,200</time>
<s>就我只活这么一次</s>
<time>330_00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,000</time>
<s>我还是希望能够不断的</s>
<time>331_00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:21,400</time>
<s>去做一些我觉得有意义</s>
<time>332_00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:22,000</time>
<s>有价值的事</s>
<time>333_00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:24,200</time>
<s>那金金你有没有什么（遗憾）呢</s>
<time>334_00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,000</time>
<s>如果说有什么我可以</s>
<time>335_00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:30,400</time>
<s>重来一遍我做的更好 那可能是</s>
<time>336_00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,400</time>
<s>就我在过去成长的道路上</s>
<time>337_00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:36,600</time>
<s>过于追求这个成长的速度</s>
<time>338_00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:41,000</time>
<s>而错过了一些风景甚至是人</s>
<time>339_00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:44,000</time>
<s>其实我觉得我过去可能追求的是成功</s>
<time>340_00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:45,200</time>
<s>而不是幸福</s>
<time>341_00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,200</time>
<s>但是成功不意味着会幸福</s>
<time>342_00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:50,800</time>
<s>这是我的一个感受吧</s>
<time>343_00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:52,600</time>
<s>就是拿感情来举例子</s>
<time>344_00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,600</time>
<s>过去我老给自己找一个借口是</s>
<time>345_00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:56,600</time>
<s>我工作太忙了</s>
<time>346_00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:58,000</time>
<s>但实际上</s>
<time>347_00:12:58,200 --> 00:12:59,800</time>
<s>这是我个人的选择</s>
<time>348_00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:04,200</time>
<s>我只是选择了那个能快速产出成果的</s>
<time>349_00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,200</time>
<s>那条路是我在工作和感情中</s>
<time>350_00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:09,800</time>
<s>我把时间和精力奉献给了工作</s>
<time>351_00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:12,600</time>
<s>是因为工作能够快速地给我反馈</s>
<time>352_00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:14,200</time>
<s>给我正向反馈给我好的结果</s>
<time>353_00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:16,000</time>
<s>我努力了就有回报</s>
<time>354_00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:18,200</time>
<s>而我害怕感情就算</s>
<time>355_00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,800</time>
<s>努力了也没有好的结果</s>
<time>356_00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,800</time>
<s>但是当时还是</s>
<time>357_00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,800</time>
<s>比较幼稚就是太追求所谓的结果</s>
<time>358_00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:29,000</time>
<s>大家会倾向于觉得一段感情的</s>
<time>359_00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:32,400</time>
<s>怎么去定义一段感情是否成功或者是</s>
<time>360_00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:33,400</time>
<s>有没有一个好的结果</s>
<time>361_00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:35,400</time>
<s>就是有没有结婚，有没有走向婚姻</s>
<time>362_00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:39,000</time>
<s>那仿佛没有走向婚姻的感情</s>
<time>363_00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:40,800</time>
<s>就是失败的感情一样</s>
<time>364_00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:44,400</time>
<s>这个世界我们周围生活</s>
<time>365_00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:45,800</time>
<s>这么多长辈啊</s>
<time>366_00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:48,000</time>
<s>这么多朋友在催“婚”没人催“恋”</s>
<time>367_00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:51,200</time>
<s>是吧对大家都在催婚然后</s>
<time>368_00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:56,000</time>
<s>仿佛结婚就是一段感情最完美的终点</s>
<time>369_00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,600</time>
<s>它其实只是婚姻生活的起点而已</s>
<time>370_00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,800</time>
<s>那并不意味着没有走向婚姻的感情</s>
<time>371_00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,600</time>
<s>就是一定是不成功的其实</s>
<time>372_00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,400</time>
<s>我觉得可能就是这种</s>
<time>373_00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,400</time>
<s>想赢怕输的这种心态吧</s>
<time>374_00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:13,800</time>
<s>会导致我觉得我把时间和精力更投入在工作上</s>
<time>375_00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:15,600</time>
<s>它一定会有比较正确的反馈</s>
<time>376_00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,000</time>
<s>而这种正反馈</s>
<time>377_00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,800</time>
<s>是我能够用来向家人证明</s>
<time>378_00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:23,200</time>
<s>我过得还不错 我靠自己的努力</s>
<time>379_00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:25,200</time>
<s>然后过着自己选择的生活</s>
<time>380_00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:26,000</time>
<s>过得还不错的方式</s>
<time>381_00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,000</time>
<s>因为感情我太怕</s>
<time>382_00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:29,800</time>
<s>如果说（没有收获)（对）</s>
<time>383_00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,200</time>
<s>然后到时候工作也没有做的很好</s>
<time>384_00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:33,400</time>
<s>然后一事无成的时候</s>
<time>385_00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,400</time>
<s>我没有办法向家人证明我过得很好</s>
<time>386_00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:40,000</time>
<s>而工作再不济我就算感情不成功</s>
<time>387_00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:41,200</time>
<s>我还可以向家人说</s>
<time>388_00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:42,600</time>
<s>我说你看我工作还不错吧</s>
<time>389_00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,000</time>
<s>我过得还不错吧</s>
<time>390_00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,800</time>
<s>我觉得这其实是一种想要向</s>
<time>391_00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:50,000</time>
<s>家里人证明自己过得还不错</s>
<time>392_00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,600</time>
<s>别担心的方式</s>
<time>393_00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,200</time>
<s>然后另外一个就是</s>
<time>394_00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:56,000</time>
<s>过于追求这个所谓的结果</s>
<time>395_00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,200</time>
<s>但是其实感情</s>
<time>396_00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,600</time>
<s>没有结果的感情就不是好的感情吗</s>
<time>397_00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:02,800</time>
<s>其实感情</s>
<time>398_00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,200</time>
<s>我觉得最大的意义在于体验本身</s>
<time>399_00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:07,800</time>
<s>人生有的时候</s>
<time>400_00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:10,400</time>
<s>有的事是需要结果和及时反馈的</s>
<time>401_00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:11,400</time>
<s>比如工作</s>
<time>402_00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:12,200</time>
<s>确实对</s>
<time>403_00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:15,600</time>
<s>有的事不是那么需要结果和反馈的</s>
<time>404_00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:18,000</time>
<s>比如感情，不光是爱情了</s>
<time>405_00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:19,200</time>
<s>亲情、友情</s>
<time>406_00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:21,000</time>
<s>你不是要一个什么结果</s>
<time>407_00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:22,600</time>
<s>你才要去经营它</s>
<time>408_00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:24,800</time>
<s>而是说我享受</s>
<time>409_00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:26,000</time>
<s>这段感情</s>
<time>410_00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,400</time>
<s>这个人带给我本身的那种幸福感</s>
<time>411_00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:32,400</time>
<s>所以如果说再有什么事能够</s>
<time>412_00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:34,200</time>
<s>我能够做的更好</s>
<time>413_00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,600</time>
<s>我就是会更好的分配</s>
<time>414_00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:38,000</time>
<s>我这个人生的时间吧</s>
<time>415_00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:39,800</time>
<s>另外就是</s>
<time>416_00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,600</time>
<s>我觉得可能我们三个</s>
<time>417_00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,800</time>
<s>我们更加注重所谓的精神共鸣</s>
<time>418_00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:48,000</time>
<s>而精神共鸣本身就是一个</s>
<time>419_00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:49,200</time>
<s>很虚的东西</s>
