<time>420_00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:52,400</time>
<s>或者说它是需要你长期的积累和相处</s>
<time>421_00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:53,200</time>
<s>你才知道</s>
<time>422_00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:54,800</time>
<s>你跟这个人是否有共鸣</s>
<time>423_00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:57,000</time>
<s>是否灵魂契合的一件事情</s>
<time>424_00:15:57,000 --> 00:15:58,600</time>
<s>它本身就不是交易</s>
<time>425_00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:00,400</time>
<s>它不是这种</s>
<time>426_00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:02,800</time>
<s>在市场上待价而沽的商品</s>
<time>427_00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:04,800</time>
<s>然后我是买家，我来挑一个商品</s>
<time>428_00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:06,000</time>
<s>它不是这样的过程</s>
<time>429_00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:07,200</time>
<s>它其实本身就是</s>
<time>430_00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,400</time>
<s>需要大量的时间和精力去投入</s>
<time>431_00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:11,000</time>
<s>你才可能</s>
<time>432_00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:13,800</time>
<s>找到那个对的人</s>
<time>433_00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:16,200</time>
<s>就是你付出了时间精力你可能会输</s>
<time>434_00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:18,200</time>
<s>但你不付出你一定不会赢</s>
<time>435_00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:21,000</time>
<s>所以其实还是要去付出</s>
<time>436_00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,000</time>
<s>就是你付出了你才可能有结果</s>
<time>437_00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:25,200</time>
<s>但是你不付出是一定没有结果的</s>
<time>438_00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:30,800</time>
<s>我觉得是要更勇敢，要不怕输，要敢于付出</s>
<time>439_00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:33,200</time>
<s>可能就本身就没有输这件事</s>
<time>440_00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,400</time>
<s>今天其实让我挺有感慨的</s>
<time>441_00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:38,400</time>
<s>就我意识到我过去这20多年</s>
<time>442_00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:41,800</time>
<s>很少进行这样的自我反思</s>
<time>443_00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,400</time>
<s>就很少看来时的路 为什么</s>
<time>444_00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:47,200</time>
<s>就不知道为什么在这个时候好像</s>
<time>445_00:16:47,600 --> 00:16:48,800</time>
<s>才敢回头</s>
<time>446_00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,800</time>
<s>可能以前回头会觉得万一回头看见了</s>
<time>447_00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:54,600</time>
<s>什么地方走错了</s>
<time>448_00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:56,400</time>
<s>但是到今天</s>
<time>449_00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:58,200</time>
<s>我可以接受一</s>
<time>450_00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:00,200</time>
<s>我曾经是怕输的</s>
<time>451_00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:01,600</time>
<s>我接受这个认知</s>
<time>452_00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:02,400</time>
<s>并且我知道</s>
<time>453_00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:05,200</time>
<s>我现在没那么怕输了之后才敢回头</s>
<time>454_00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:07,000</time>
<s>做这些结论和观察</s>
<time>455_00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:08,800</time>
<s>我觉得另一个意义上</s>
<time>456_00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:11,200</time>
<s>也是因为我们一路走到今天</s>
<time>457_00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:12,200</time>
<s>因为幸运</s>
<time>458_00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:14,000</time>
<s>因为人生中很多好的机遇</s>
<time>459_00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:15,200</time>
<s>我们现在过得还不错</s>
<time>460_00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:16,000</time>
<s>或者说</s>
<time>461_00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:18,800</time>
<s>我们有一些其他的途径和渠道和方式</s>
<time>462_00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:21,400</time>
<s>比如说工作和事业相对的成功</s>
<time>463_00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:22,400</time>
<s>有一些很多事情</s>
<time>464_00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:23,600</time>
<s>都得到了自己想要的结果</s>
<time>465_00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:26,000</time>
<s>比如说想去一个很好的学校读书</s>
<time>466_00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,200</time>
<s>想来北大读MBA都实现了</s>
<time>467_00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:29,200</time>
<s>这个时候</s>
<time>468_00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,600</time>
<s>当我们人生获得的满足感和</s>
<time>469_00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:33,400</time>
<s>成就感已经够多的时候</s>
<time>470_00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:36,200</time>
<s>你可以更加从容地去回看</s>
<time>471_00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:37,800</time>
<s>过去的遗憾也好</s>
<time>472_00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:39,200</time>
<s>小的失败也好</s>
<time>473_00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,800</time>
<s>那一刻你本可以做的更好的事情</s>
<time>474_00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:44,200</time>
<s>我觉得是当你有了这些</s>
<time>475_00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:46,400</time>
<s>牢牢掌握在你手里的底气</s>
<time>476_00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:47,600</time>
<s>安全感和底气之后</s>
<time>477_00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,000</time>
<s>你才更加的敢回头看了</s>
<time>478_00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:52,400</time>
<s>我觉得这真的是有的时候</s>
<time>479_00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:54,200</time>
<s>在现在这个环境里面吧</s>
<time>480_00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,400</time>
<s>大家有的时候经常说卷是在卷什么呢</s>
<time>481_00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:00,400</time>
<s>其实就是在一直不顾一切的往前奔跑</s>
<time>482_00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:01,800</time>
<s>有的时候很难</s>
<time>483_00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:03,000</time>
<s>就是回头再过去看看</s>
<time>484_00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,200</time>
<s>当然我也很赞同就大家要向前看</s>
<time>485_00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:07,600</time>
<s>不要沉溺在过去</s>
<time>486_00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:08,200</time>
<s>没错</s>
<time>487_00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:11,200</time>
<s>但是我觉得及时的去回首过去</s>
<time>488_00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:13,200</time>
<s>去复盘你过去的一些人生的经验</s>
<time>489_00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:14,400</time>
<s>也是一件很有勇气</s>
<time>490_00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:17,200</time>
<s>是一件可以去做的事情</s>
<time>491_00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:18,800</time>
<s>时不时的回头</s>
<time>492_00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:22,000</time>
<s>回看过去的这些人生也挺有意思的</s>
<time>493_00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,400</time>
<s>当然我也不为</s>
<time>494_00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,200</time>
<s>哪一个瞬间而捶胸顿足</s>
<time>495_00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,000</time>
<s>因为正是过去的这些经历</s>
<time>496_00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:31,600</time>
<s>好的也好坏的也好</s>
<time>497_00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,400</time>
<s>甚至于一些小的成就也好</s>
<time>498_00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:35,600</time>
<s>遗憾也好去构成了今天的你</s>
<time>499_00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:38,400</time>
<s>让你去做决策的时候</s>
<time>500_00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:39,800</time>
<s>遵循一些逻辑</s>
<time>501_00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:41,200</time>
<s>或者是你</s>
<time>502_00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:43,800</time>
<s>意识到自已过去忽略了一些事情以后</s>
<time>503_00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:45,800</time>
<s>希望改进吧</s>
<time>504_00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,000</time>
<s>敢回头这件事本身就已经足够伟大了</s>
<time>505_00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:52,400</time>
<s>我还有一个小的感想就是</s>
<time>506_00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,400</time>
<s>如果你想要过得更幸福</s>
<time>507_00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:57,000</time>
<s>就不要以别人的眼光</s>
<time>508_00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:00,800</time>
<s>去追求那种世俗定义的成功</s>
<time>509_00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:03,800</time>
<s>而是追求你内心自己想要的幸福</s>
<time>510_00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:07,400</time>
<s>就算我们今天说了说我再回到过去</s>
<time>511_00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:08,800</time>
<s>我可能会想要</s>
<time>512_00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:10,600</time>
<s>更勇敢的付出时间和精力</s>
<time>513_00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:12,000</time>
<s>给感情这件事情</s>
<time>514_00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,800</time>
<s>对我来说是这样 但对于有的人来说</s>
<time>515_00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:16,600</time>
<s>工作就是TA的底气</s>
<time>516_00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:18,200</time>
<s>就是TA幸福的来源</s>
<time>517_00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:21,200</time>
<s>那这个时候你就坚定做你想要做的事</s>
<time>518_00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:23,200</time>
<s>做让你觉得幸福的事</s>
<time>519_00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:24,600</time>
<s>另外我其实突然发现</s>
<time>520_00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,400</time>
<s>我们每个人在说到遗憾</s>
<time>521_00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:27,200</time>
<s>说到过去的时候</s>
<time>522_00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:28,400</time>
<s>其实是笑着说的</s>
<time>523_00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:30,400</time>
<s>你有发现吗，</s>
<time>524_00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:32,200</time>
<s>看似好像遗憾是一件好像</s>
<time>525_00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:33,600</time>
<s>听起来挺伤感的事情</s>
<time>526_00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:37,000</time>
<s>但是我们都是笑着说的就是现在那些</s>
<time>527_00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:38,800</time>
<s>回首过去的那些遗憾的回忆</s>
<time>528_00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,000</time>
<s>现在成为了我们可以笑着说的东西</s>
<time>529_00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,200</time>
<s>这其实本身就是一件挺美好的事</s>
<time>530_00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:45,200</time>
<s>有很多遗憾</s>
<time>531_00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:47,600</time>
<s>它会成为回忆本身</s>
<time>532_00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,600</time>
<s>所以有点遗憾也挺好的也挺美好的</s>
<time>533_00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,000</time>
<s>没有遗憾的人生也不太完整</s>
<time>534_00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:57,200</time>
<s>那今天我们就聊到这吧</s>
<time>535_00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:57,600</time>
<s>敬遗憾</s>
