<time>874_00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:51,240</time>
<s>你看比如说您讲一个段子对吧</s>
<time>875_00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,760</time>
<s>可能这个段子他听过</s>
<time>876_00:25:54,120 --> 00:25:54,840</time>
<s>然后你就发现</s>
<time>877_00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:56,280</time>
<s>有的人绷不住圆某派</s>
<time>878_00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,800</time>
<s>刨活儿对吧</s>
<time>879_00:25:59,160 --> 00:25:59,520</time>
<s>人家底还没翻呢</s>
<time>880_00:25:59,880 --> 00:26:00,240</time>
<s>人家底还没翻呢圆果派</s>
<time>881_00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:00,960</time>
<s>我知道圆果派</s>
<time>882_00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:02,400</time>
<s>其实你这样做是双输圆桌派</s>
<time>883_00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:03,120</time>
<s>其实你这样做是双输</s>
<time>884_00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:04,920</time>
<s>因为这个笑话</s>
<time>885_00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:06,360</time>
<s>既不是属于你的</s>
<time>886_00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,160</time>
<s>也不是属于他的是吧</s>
<time>887_00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:09,240</time>
<s>你要成就别人的表演圆杲派</s>
<time>888_00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,040</time>
<s>你要成就别人的表演</s>
<time>889_00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,920</time>
<s>别人才能成就你的表演</s>
<time>890_00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:15,000</time>
<s>我就发现这个</s>
<time>891_00:26:15,360 --> 00:26:15,720</time>
<s>有的时候这个人圆某派</s>
<time>892_00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,240</time>
<s>每次都像第一次听</s>
<time>893_00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:19,320</time>
<s>这是一个修养</s>
<time>894_00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:21,120</time>
<s>你知道</s>
<time>895_00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:22,200</time>
<s>就是有的时候圆果派</s>
<time>896_00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:24,000</time>
<s>您有一次我是听谁圆桌派</s>
<time>897_00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:25,800</time>
<s>店讲一个这个故事圆果派</s>
<time>898_00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:26,880</time>
<s>我就记得很深</s>
<time>899_00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:27,600</time>
<s>说是英国国王</s>
<time>900_00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:29,040</time>
<s>说是英国国王圆果派</s>
<time>901_00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:30,840</time>
<s>和一个老大臣</s>
<time>902_00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,360</time>
<s>然后吃饭</s>
<time>903_00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:34,440</time>
<s>这个老大臣老跟他吃饭</s>
<time>904_00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,320</time>
<s>国王岁数大了健忘</s>
<time>905_00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:39,120</time>
<s>就讲了个笑话圆桌派</s>
<time>906_00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:42,000</time>
<s>这个老大臣哈哈大笑圆杲派</s>
<time>907_00:26:42,360 --> 00:26:43,800</time>
<s>后来就吃饭圆桌派</s>
<time>908_00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:44,880</time>
<s>过了五分钟圆果派</s>
<time>909_00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:45,960</time>
<s>这个国王忘了圆果派</s>
<time>910_00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:47,040</time>
<s>又讲一遍圆果派</s>
<time>911_00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,920</time>
<s>这个大臣哈哈大笑</s>
<time>912_00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:51,000</time>
<s>后来过了五分钟圆果派</s>
<time>913_00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:52,080</time>
<s>这个国王又讲一遍圆果派</s>
<time>914_00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:53,160</time>
<s>这个大臣哈哈</s>
<time>915_00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:53,880</time>
<s>这个大臣哈哈圆果派</s>
<time>916_00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:54,600</time>
<s>这个国主说圆果派</s>
<time>917_00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:57,120</time>
<s>我是不是刚才讲过</s>
<time>918_00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:58,560</time>
<s>这个大臣说什么</s>
<time>919_00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:00,000</time>
<s>是吗陛下</s>
<time>920_00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:02,160</time>
<s>那刚才我也忘了</s>
<time>921_00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:04,680</time>
<s>化解尴尬</s>
<time>922_00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:05,760</time>
<s>这世界上</s>
<time>923_00:27:06,120 --> 00:27:06,840</time>
<s>有的人咱们知道</s>
<time>924_00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,720</time>
<s>觉得自己有钱就牛对吧</s>
<time>925_00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:10,800</time>
<s>可是实际上</s>
<time>926_00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:12,600</time>
<s>我觉得还有一种</s>
<time>927_00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:14,760</time>
<s>觉得自己有知识就牛</s>
<time>928_00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:19,080</time>
<s>什么事儿我知道你不知道</s>
<time>929_00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:20,880</time>
<s>他觉得可以炫耀圆桌派</s>
<time>930_00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:22,680</time>
<s>其实要照我觉得</s>
<time>931_00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:24,480</time>
<s>真的是人人平等</s>
<time>932_00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:28,440</time>
<s>就是说不管是金钱还是知识</s>
<time>933_00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:29,160</time>
<s>甚至是才华</s>
<time>934_00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:29,880</time>
<s>甚至是才华圆果派</s>
<time>935_00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:30,960</time>
<s>人格上是平等的</s>
<time>936_00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:31,680</time>
<s>对</s>
<time>937_00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:33,120</time>
<s>你这么想明白了</s>
<time>938_00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:34,560</time>
<s>其实你就</s>
<time>939_00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:35,640</time>
<s>你不自卑</s>
<time>940_00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:37,440</time>
<s>你背过了很好</s>
<time>941_00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:38,520</time>
<s>你背过了很好圆果派</s>
<time>942_00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:40,680</time>
<s>好啊你给我背一遍</s>
<time>943_00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:42,840</time>
<s>我从此不就知道了吗</s>
<time>944_00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:43,920</time>
<s>这玩意儿有什么丢人的呢</s>
<time>945_00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:45,000</time>
<s>但是你会发现</s>
<time>946_00:27:45,360 --> 00:27:47,880</time>
<s>很多人会因为聊天当中</s>
<time>947_00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,040</time>
<s>他知道这个我不知道</s>
<time>948_00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:51,120</time>
<s>他就觉得丢人圆桌派</s>
<time>949_00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:51,840</time>
<s>我觉得这有什么圆桌派</s>
<time>950_00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:52,920</time>
<s>就是没有知识圆果派</s>
<time>951_00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:54,000</time>
<s>就是没有知识</s>
<time>952_00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:55,800</time>
<s>也没有什么丢人的圆某派</s>
<time>953_00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,960</time>
<s>但是你不知道装知道</s>
<time>954_00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:59,040</time>
<s>这才打脸呢</s>
<time>955_00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:00,480</time>
<s>这才真丢人呢</s>
<time>956_00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,640</time>
<s>但是你刚才讲的另一种情况</s>
<time>957_00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:04,440</time>
<s>在我们身上是常犯</s>
<time>958_00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:05,880</time>
<s>就别人讲一个事情</s>
<time>959_00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:07,680</time>
<s>我知道它的结果的</s>
<time>960_00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:09,480</time>
<s>还没讲完</s>
<time>961_00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:10,560</time>
<s>我就说怎么样怎么样</s>
<time>962_00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,720</time>
<s>就显出一个这个我也知道</s>
<time>963_00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:14,520</time>
<s>其实这个很讨厌</s>
<time>964_00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:16,680</time>
<s>在旁人看来很讨厌</s>
<time>965_00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:18,480</time>
<s>那么这个时候</s>
<time>966_00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:19,560</time>
<s>你就要有一份心</s>
<time>967_00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:21,000</time>
<s>我觉得还是一种</s>
<time>968_00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:22,800</time>
<s>就是将心比心</s>
<time>969_00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:24,600</time>
<s>就是说人家在讲这个事情</s>
<time>970_00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:27,480</time>
<s>这个事情是有趣的</s>
<time>971_00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:28,560</time>
<s>你何必在这个时候</s>
<time>972_00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:29,640</time>
<s>插这么一句</s>
<time>973_00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,160</time>
<s>这就叫不解风情</s>
<time>974_00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:32,880</time>
<s>双输</s>
<time>975_00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:33,600</time>
<s>这个不解风情</s>
<time>976_00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:34,680</time>
<s>一个是这种</s>
<time>977_00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:35,760</time>
<s>还有一种人是说人</s>
<time>978_00:28:36,120 --> 00:28:37,920</time>
<s>你比如说你提及一个人</s>
<time>979_00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:39,720</time>
<s>马上就有人这人我认得</s>
<time>980_00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:40,800</time>
<s>我跟他熟什么</s>
<time>981_00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:41,520</time>
<s>这种人最多</s>
<time>982_00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,680</time>
<s>其实他没有很熟</s>
<time>983_00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:44,760</time>
<s>就是这种人拦话</s>
<time>984_00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:46,560</time>
<s>我跟他怎么着怎么着</s>
<time>985_00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:47,640</time>
<s>就说一大堆没用的</s>
<time>986_00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:48,720</time>
<s>就算你跟他很熟</s>
<time>987_00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:51,600</time>
<s>你也没必要去拦别人的话</s>
<time>988_00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:52,320</time>
<s>所以我在这儿</s>
<time>989_00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,480</time>
<s>你比如我在各种社交场所</s>
<time>990_00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:55,560</time>
<s>有时候提到某人</s>
<time>991_00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:56,640</time>
<s>其实我都认得</s>
<time>992_00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:58,440</time>
<s>我也就是一般情况下</s>
<time>993_00:28:58,800 --> 00:28:59,520</time>
<s>有时候人家问你的时候</s>
<time>994_00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:00,600</time>
<s>你迫不得已你得说</s>
<time>995_00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:01,680</time>
<s>就是认识</s>
<time>996_00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:03,840</time>
<s>因为你说什么叫很熟</s>
<time>997_00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,640</time>
<s>那你要说你跟他很熟</s>
<time>998_00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:06,360</time>
<s>我问他你跟他借钱</s>
<time>999_00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:07,800</time>
<s>他借你吗对不对</s>
<time>1000_00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,600</time>
<s>最熟的人我说过</s>
<time>1001_00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:11,760</time>
<s>就是我们的社交范围</s>
<time>1002_00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:12,840</time>
<s>一个人一生中</s>
<time>1003_00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:14,640</time>
<s>现在我们社交的机会比较多</s>
<time>1004_00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,880</time>
<s>能跟一万个人擦肩而过对吧</s>
<time>1005_00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:18,600</time>
<s>你三万天</s>
<time>1006_00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,760</time>
<s>活82岁能活三万天</s>
<time>1007_00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:21,840</time>
<s>头一万天后一万天</s>
<time>1008_00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:22,560</time>
<s>基本上没什么社交</s>
<time>1009_00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:23,640</time>
<s>中间这一万天</s>
<time>1010_00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:24,720</time>
<s>就一天见一个人吧</s>
<time>1011_00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,600</time>
<s>就是你跟一万个人擦肩而过</s>
<time>1012_00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:28,680</time>
<s>但是你跟他有交集</s>
<time>1013_00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:30,480</time>
<s>能说一些话</s>
<time>1014_00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:32,280</time>
<s>能坐下来吃顿饭或什么的人</s>
<time>1015_00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:33,720</time>
<s>不会超过一千个人</s>
<time>1016_00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:34,800</time>
<s>一下90%就丢掉了</s>
<time>1017_00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:36,600</time>
<s>这一千个人</s>
<time>1018_00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:37,680</time>
<s>能够比较深地了解</s>
<time>1019_00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:39,480</time>
<s>就知道这人的前世今生</s>
<time>1020_00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:40,920</time>
<s>你比如说哪个学校毕业的</s>
<time>1021_00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:41,640</time>
<s>还是在哪儿工作</s>
<time>1022_00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,800</time>
<s>跟谁谈过恋爱什么</s>
<time>1023_00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:44,520</time>
<s>你知道这些人</s>
<time>1024_00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:45,600</time>
<s>就不会再超过一百个</s>
<time>1025_00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:46,680</time>
<s>又刷去90%</s>
<time>1026_00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:47,760</time>
<s>那最后剩下十个人是什么</s>
<time>1027_00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:49,560</time>
<s>是可以借钱的人</s>
<time>1028_00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:50,640</time>
<s>一般人都达不到</s>
<time>1029_00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:51,720</time>
<s>十个人可以借钱</s>
<time>1030_00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:53,520</time>
<s>我们说借钱不是说</s>
<time>1031_00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,680</time>
<s>文涛说我现在缺三百块钱你借我</s>
<time>1032_00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:56,760</time>
<s>不是这意思</s>
<time>1033_00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:57,840</time>
<s>我现在缺二百万</s>
<time>1034_00:29:58,200 --> 00:29:58,920</time>
<s>你能给谁个人</s>
<time>1035_00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:00,720</time>
<s>你能给几个人打这个电话</s>
<time>1036_00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:02,880</time>
<s>借这二百万无抵押的</s>
<time>1037_00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:03,960</time>
<s>那你不会超过十个人</s>
<time>1038_00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,760</time>
<s>马爷您十个</s>
<time>1039_00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:07,560</time>
<s>我一个都没有呢</s>
<time>1040_00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,360</time>
<s>马爷我们记下</s>
<time>1041_00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:10,800</time>
<s>这社交狂</s>
<time>1042_00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:11,520</time>
<s>这叫社交大师了这叫</s>
<time>1043_00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:12,240</time>
<s>然这叫社交大师了这叫圆杲派</s>
<time>1044_00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:13,680</time>
<s>然后你想想</s>
<time>1045_00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:14,760</time>
<s>从一万个人到一千个人</s>
<time>1046_00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:16,560</time>
<s>到一百个人到十个人</s>
<time>1047_00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:17,640</time>
<s>其实是你社交的</s>
<time>1048_00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:18,720</time>
<s>一个金字塔状的</s>
<time>1049_00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:19,800</time>
<s>你就是这点儿人</s>
<time>1050_00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:21,600</time>
<s>我们想我们在座的</s>
<time>1051_00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:22,680</time>
<s>每个人手机中的</s>
<time>1052_00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,560</time>
<s>你可联系的人一定是上千的</s>
<time>1053_00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:26,640</time>
<s>你的朋友圈有多少人</s>
<time>1054_00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:28,800</time>
<s>我朋友圈从来不发</s>
<time>1055_00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:29,520</time>
<s>我都不玩那个</s>
<time>1056_00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:30,600</time>
<s>因为我不敢</s>
<time>1057_00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:32,760</time>
<s>我上次被他们问过</s>
<time>1058_00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,640</time>
<s>我上次参加另外一个节目</s>
<time>1059_00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:37,800</time>
<s>它总额是多少</s>
<time>1060_00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:39,600</time>
<s>三千是吧</s>
<time>1061_00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:40,680</time>
<s>朋友圈就是微信</s>
<time>1062_00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:42,480</time>
<s>可以加五千个人</s>
<time>1063_00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:43,920</time>
<s>对就有一个人</s>
<time>1064_00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:45,360</time>
<s>他就是五千个人</s>
<time>1065_00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:47,520</time>
<s>你要再加他呢</s>
<time>1066_00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:48,600</time>
<s>他就要删去一些</s>
<time>1067_00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:50,760</time>
<s>但是另外一个人</s>
<time>1068_00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:52,200</time>
<s>就一千多个</s>
<time>1069_00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:52,920</time>
<s>我就很自卑</s>
<time>1070_00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,080</time>
<s>我才三百个</s>
<time>1071_00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:56,160</time>
<s>其中还有些名字</s>
<time>1072_00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:57,240</time>
<s>我不记得是谁了</s>
<time>1073_00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,120</time>
<s>你要是说有几千个人</s>
<time>1074_00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:01,200</time>
<s>你不可能</s>
<time>1075_00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:02,280</time>
<s>加上备注也没有用</s>
<time>1076_00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:03,360</time>
<s>我加过备注</s>
<time>1077_00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,160</time>
<s>完了还是不认识这人是谁</s>
<time>1078_00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:07,320</time>
<s>因为想不起在哪儿联系的</s>
<time>1079_00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:08,400</time>
<s>对还有很多时候</s>
<time>1080_00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:09,120</time>
<s>我觉得就是年轻人</s>
<time>1081_00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:10,200</time>
<s>可能会觉得</s>
<time>1082_00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,080</time>
<s>他干嘛要跟这些人</s>
<time>1083_00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:14,160</time>
<s>比如说借钱要干嘛</s>
<time>1084_00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:15,600</time>
<s>因为现在我说的社会功能</s>
<time>1085_00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:17,400</time>
<s>我直接我找银行行不行</s>
<time>1086_00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:18,480</time>
<s>我找这个信贷公司</s>
<time>1087_00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:19,200</time>
<s>他觉得</s>
<time>1088_00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:20,640</time>
<s>比如说我任何事情的解决</s>
<time>1089_00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:22,080</time>
<s>我是直接可以</s>
<time>1090_00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,240</time>
<s>通过第三方的渠道解决</s>
<time>1091_00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:25,320</time>
<s>为什么我要跟一个人社交</s>
<time>1092_00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,200</time>
<s>就是还要寒喧还要各种</s>
<time>1093_00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:29,280</time>
<s>可能还要维护这种情感</s>
<time>1094_00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:30,360</time>
<s>但是我们刚才讲的道理</s>
<time>1095_00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,320</time>
<s>不仅是讲社交和生人</s>
<time>1096_00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:35,040</time>
<s>朋友圈一样</s>
<time>1097_00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,200</time>
<s>我显示我好的东西</s>
<time>1098_00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,080</time>
<s>来证明我现在生活得很幸福</s>
<time>1099_00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,320</time>
<s>这个东西流露优越感</s>
<time>1100_00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:46,560</time>
<s>真的是人很难克服的一个本能</s>
<time>1101_00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:47,640</time>
<s>有的时候</s>
<time>1102_00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:48,720</time>
<s>我现在就是做这个</s>
<time>1103_00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:50,160</time>
<s>自我审视的功夫</s>
<time>1104_00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:51,600</time>
<s>我有时候就要</s>
<time>1105_00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:52,320</time>
<s>狠斗私字一闪念</s>
<time>1106_00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,640</time>
<s>这句话又在这儿跟人吹牛呢</s>
<time>1107_00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:58,440</time>
<s>我跟科比拍过一张照</s>
<time>1108_00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:00,960</time>
<s>诸如此类的</s>
<time>1109_00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,120</time>
<s>但这个是很难不做到的</s>
<time>1110_00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:05,640</time>
<s>不是它有两种</s>
<time>1111_00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,960</time>
<s>就是说有一种是要瑟的</s>
<time>1112_00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:11,760</time>
<s>瑟的这种焦虑</s>
<time>1113_00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:13,920</time>
<s>或者这种愿望对吧</s>
<time>1114_00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:15,720</time>
<s>但是我觉得</s>
<time>1115_00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,880</time>
<s>像咱们刚才说的这个</s>
<time>1116_00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,040</time>
<s>讨厌去团建的这些年轻人</s>
<time>1117_00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:21,480</time>
<s>我觉得更多地</s>
<time>1118_00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:23,640</time>
<s>他们好像表现出一种守势</s>
<time>1119_00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:25,800</time>
<s>因为我想</s>
<time>1120_00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,040</time>
<s>至少我身边有些年轻的朋友</s>
<time>1121_00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:30,480</time>
<s>我能感觉到</s>
<time>1122_00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,360</time>
<s>就是他们是觉得</s>
<time>1123_00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:34,800</time>
<s>比如说他们要来我们这儿来</s>
<time>1124_00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,040</time>
<s>他会觉得是个很大的压力</s>
<time>1125_00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,920</time>
<s>因为他不知道能不能搭得上话</s>
<time>1126_00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:43,800</time>
<s>害怕你们觉得我不懂规矩</s>
<time>1127_00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,680</time>
<s>害怕我不知道该怎么表现我自己</s>
<time>1128_00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:48,840</time>
<s>那么特别像这样的人</s>
<time>1129_00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:49,560</time>
<s>有时候碰到了</s>
<time>1130_00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:51,720</time>
<s>现在有的企业</s>
<time>1131_00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,160</time>
<s>就那种企业文化</s>
<time>1132_00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,680</time>
<s>我真的可以想象它那种别扭</s>
<time>1133_00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:56,760</time>
<s>强迫着你</s>
<time>1134_00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:58,560</time>
<s>甚至还有那个的</s>
<time>1135_00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,440</time>
<s>就是到了有点儿像咱们觉得</s>
<time>1136_00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:02,880</time>
<s>那个有些美国电影</s>
<time>1137_00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:03,960</time>
<s>过去西点军校</s>
<time>1138_00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:05,760</time>
<s>搞的那个玩意儿</s>
<time>1139_00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:07,920</time>
<s>就有点儿像有些学校里</s>
<time>1140_00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,440</time>
<s>还有那种训新生</s>
<time>1141_00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:11,520</time>
<s>老员工</s>
<time>1142_00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:14,760</time>
<s>比如说你怕什么</s>
<time>1143_00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:16,920</time>
<s>真的有一个网友说</s>
<time>1144_00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:18,720</time>
<s>他就是最怕跳水的</s>
<time>1145_00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:20,160</time>
<s>给从十米跳台上推下来</s>
<time>1146_00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:21,240</time>
<s>在游泳池</s>
<time>1147_00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:23,760</time>
<s>前些年广州出过一个事儿</s>
<time>1148_00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:24,840</time>
<s>要体验</s>
<time>1149_00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,720</time>
<s>要训练员工的意志</s>
<time>1150_00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:29,880</time>
<s>就是在恐惧的时候怎么办</s>
<time>1151_00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:31,680</time>
<s>好把他按在水里</s>
<time>1152_00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:33,840</time>
<s>三十秒起来</s>
<time>1153_00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,640</time>
<s>按在水里三十秒起来</s>
<time>1154_00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:37,080</time>
<s>最后出人命了</s>
<time>1155_00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:38,880</time>
<s>就是玩这个东西</s>
<time>1156_00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:41,760</time>
<s>一帮人在一起</s>
<time>1157_00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:42,840</time>
<s>就是那个员工</s>
<time>1158_00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:43,920</time>
<s>大声呼喊鲜</s>
<time>1159_00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:46,800</time>
<s>这个很常见</s>
<time>1160_00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:48,240</time>
<s>给员工培训就是这种</s>
<time>1161_00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,040</time>
<s>我要不看我还真不知道</s>
<time>1162_00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:51,120</time>
<s>世界上有这样的事情</s>
<time>1163_00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:52,920</time>
<s>就是比如说围一圈</s>
<time>1164_00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,080</time>
<s>你说这是什么心理邪术</s>
<time>1165_00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:56,880</time>
<s>就是围一圈</s>
<time>1166_00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:59,040</time>
<s>这儿中间是个缺口</s>
<time>1167_00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:01,200</time>
<s>你就站在这个缺口这儿</s>
<time>1168_00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:04,800</time>
<s>这周围这些人</s>
<time>1169_00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:06,960</time>
<s>就是受命必须批评你</s>
<time>1170_00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:08,760</time>
<s>你自私</s>
<time>1171_00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:10,200</time>
<s>你这个人心理阴暗</s>
<time>1172_00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:11,280</time>
<s>你什么什么</s>
<time>1173_00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,160</time>
<s>就看你心理的这个抗压能力</s>
<time>1174_00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:15,240</time>
<s>然后就是美其名日</s>
<time>1175_00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,040</time>
<s>你这是帮助同事</s>
<time>1176_00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:18,120</time>
<s>谁不这样干</s>
<time>1177_00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:20,280</time>
<s>也有个别人说</s>
<time>1178_00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:22,080</time>
<s>经过了这样的训练之后</s>
<time>1179_00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,240</time>
<s>据说什么就脱胎换骨</s>
<time>1180_00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,040</time>
<s>他是斯德哥尔摩综合症吧</s>
<time>1181_00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:27,120</time>
<s>重新回到工作上</s>
<time>1182_00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,280</time>
<s>简直就像是一头小狼</s>
<time>1183_00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:30,360</time>
<s>我觉得要是团建</s>
<time>1184_00:34:30,720 --> 00:34:32,160</time>
<s>要搞成这种玩意儿</s>
<time>1185_00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:33,240</time>
<s>确实是恐怖</s>
<time>1186_00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,400</time>
<s>不是我觉得它有点儿是物极必反</s>
<time>1187_00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:36,840</time>
<s>是因为我们</s>
<time>1188_00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:37,560</time>
<s>就是整体</s>
<time>1189_00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:39,720</time>
<s>我们只能说整体不说个体</s>
<time>1190_00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:40,800</time>
<s>我们整体社会</s>
<time>1191_00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:42,600</time>
<s>在年轻人的培养过程中</s>
<time>1192_00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:44,400</time>
<s>它的过程是幼儿园</s>
<time>1193_00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:45,840</time>
<s>小学中学大学</s>
<time>1194_00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:48,720</time>
<s>那么一般读完大学下来</s>
<time>1195_00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,520</time>
<s>读完大学下来</s>
<time>1196_00:34:51,240 --> 00:34:52,680</time>
<s>基本上我觉得绝大多数</s>
<time>1197_00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:54,480</time>
<s>整体的感觉是敏感的</s>
<time>1198_00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:55,560</time>
<s>都是敏感型的</s>
<time>1199_00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:56,640</time>
<s>是</s>
<time>1200_00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:57,720</time>
<s>他要培养社会的</s>
<time>1201_00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,520</time>
<s>你在社会上混</s>
<time>1202_00:34:59,880 --> 00:35:01,680</time>
<s>敏感不重要钝感重要</s>
<time>1203_00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:03,840</time>
<s>日本有本书叫《钝感力》</s>
<time>1204_00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:04,920</time>
<s>钝感力</s>
<time>1205_00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:05,640</time>
<s>所谓钝感力</s>
<time>1206_00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,440</time>
<s>就是领导批评你一句</s>
<time>1207_00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:08,880</time>
<s>其实有时候真的是为你好</s>
<time>1208_00:35:09,240 --> 00:35:10,320</time>
<s>有的人批评一句</s>
<time>1209_00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:11,400</time>
<s>就寻死觅活的</s>
<time>1210_00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:12,480</time>
<s>那肯定不行</s>
<time>1211_00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,280</time>
<s>就是你不要那么敏感</s>
<time>1212_00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:16,440</time>
<s>比如说你在哪儿哪儿哪儿</s>
<time>1213_00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:17,520</time>
<s>你可能今天有一个事情</s>
<time>1214_00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:18,600</time>
<s>没做到位</s>
<time>1215_00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:19,680</time>
<s>然后你的直系领导</s>
<time>1216_00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:20,400</time>
<s>可能警了你一眼</s>
<time>1217_00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:22,200</time>
<s>其实他警你那一眼</s>
<time>1218_00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:23,280</time>
<s>他真没警你</s>
<time>1219_00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:24,720</time>
<s>他可能是想别的事</s>
<time>1220_00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:25,440</time>
<s>但是你就可能</s>
<time>1221_00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:26,520</time>
<s>为他警了你这一眼</s>
<time>1222_00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:28,320</time>
<s>这一天就心神不宁</s>
<time>1223_00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:29,400</time>
<s>就过于敏感</s>
<time>1224_00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:32,280</time>
<s>我觉得判断事物的时候</s>
<time>1225_00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:33,000</time>
<s>你比如说你判断一个</s>
<time>1226_00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:33,720</time>
<s>具体事物的时候</s>
<time>1227_00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:35,160</time>
<s>敏感是非常有用的</s>
<time>1228_00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,400</time>
<s>但是你在判断人际关系上的时候</s>
<time>1229_00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,480</time>
<s>不要那么过于敏感</s>
<time>1230_00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:41,640</time>
<s>人家其实有时候没怎么你</s>
<time>1231_00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:43,440</time>
<s>但是是你自我觉得</s>
<time>1232_00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:45,240</time>
<s>然后引发连锁反应</s>
<time>1233_00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:46,320</time>
<s>那钝感。</s><s>点儿</s>
<time>1234_00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:47,760</time>
<s>那我觉得就朋友之间</s>
<time>1235_00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:48,480</time>
<s>说错一句话</s>
<time>1236_00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:49,200</time>
<s>没什么事儿</s>
<time>1237_00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:50,280</time>
<s>开玩笑过去了</s>
<time>1238_00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,440</time>
<s>领导之间批评你一句</s>
<time>1239_00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:53,880</time>
<s>把具体的事儿记下来就可以</s>
<time>1240_00:35:54,240 --> 00:35:55,680</time>
<s>但是不必要非往心里去</s>
<time>1241_00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:56,760</time>
<s>觉得我以后是不是</s>
<time>1242_00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,560</time>
<s>上升就无通道了</s>
<time>1243_00:35:58,920 --> 00:35:59,640</time>
<s>领导永远看不上我了</s>
<time>1244_00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:00,360</time>
<s>不是那样的</s>
<time>1245_00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,600</time>
<s>所以主要还是谁出钱</s>
<time>1246_00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:04,680</time>
<s>假期算谁的</s>
<time>1247_00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:07,560</time>
<s>因为你讲的这些</s>
<time>1248_00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:08,640</time>
<s>许老师永远现实主义</s>
<time>1249_00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:10,800</time>
<s>不是他讲的这些</s>
<time>1250_00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:11,520</time>
<s>都讲得有道理</s>
<time>1251_00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:13,680</time>
<s>但是这些都是公司培训</s>
<time>1252_00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,560</time>
<s>就是等于是工作能力之外的</s>
<time>1253_00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,360</time>
<s>同事关系的二种培训</s>
<time>1254_00:36:18,720 --> 00:36:19,800</time>
<s>所以这个当然应该公司出钱</s>
<time>1255_00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:20,520</time>
<s>它有时候</s>
<time>1256_00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:21,600</time>
<s>还要我们自己花钱</s>
<time>1257_00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:22,680</time>
<s>来接受这种培训</s>
<time>1258_00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:24,480</time>
<s>那不是它有时候是为了</s>
<time>1259_00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:25,200</time>
<s>培养你什么呢</s>
<time>1260_00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:26,640</time>
<s>你比如说你是卖保险的</s>
<time>1261_00:36:27,720 --> 00:36:29,520</time>
<s>为什么有的人保险就卖得好</s>
<time>1262_00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:30,600</time>
<s>它第一个决定</s>
<time>1263_00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:31,680</time>
<s>你的要素的是什么呢</s>
<time>1264_00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:33,480</time>
<s>你要脸皮厚对</s>
<time>1265_00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:34,200</time>
<s>你脸皮薄你卖什么</s>
<time>1266_00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:35,640</time>
<s>这是羞耻感</s>
<time>1267_00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:37,440</time>
<s>就让他的羞耻感打掉</s>
<time>1268_00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:39,600</time>
<s>对先是锻炼你</s>
<time>1269_00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:41,400</time>
<s>你要把你的这层壳剥开</s>
<time>1270_00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,640</time>
<s>第二步才是你的说话技巧</s>
<time>1271_00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:45,360</time>
<s>就是你怎么能够</s>
<time>1272_00:36:45,720 --> 00:36:46,800</time>
<s>因为有人也是要培训的</s>
<time>1273_00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:48,240</time>
<s>有人是天生的</s>
<time>1274_00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:49,320</time>
<s>永远会站位</s>
<time>1275_00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,480</time>
<s>就我永远说话让你舒服</s>
<time>1276_00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:52,200</time>
<s>什么叫让你舒服呢</s>
<time>1277_00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:53,640</time>
<s>就我永远说的话</s>
<time>1278_00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:54,360</time>
<s>比你低半头</s>
<time>1279_00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:55,800</time>
<s>我如果比你</s>
<time>1280_00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:57,240</time>
<s>我跟你平视</s>
<time>1281_00:36:57,600 --> 00:36:58,680</time>
<s>你肯定就生气了</s>
<time>1282_00:36:59,040 --> 00:36:59,760</time>
<s>我给你低一头</s>
<time>1283_00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:00,840</time>
<s>你又部视</s>
<time>1284_00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:01,920</time>
<s>所以你就低半头</s>
<time>1285_00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:03,720</time>
<s>这个分寸非常难拿</s>
<time>1286_00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:05,520</time>
<s>最好的销售人员</s>
<time>1287_00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:07,320</time>
<s>一定是说话的技巧</s>
<time>1288_00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:08,760</time>
<s>而且最好的销售人员</s>
<time>1289_00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,280</time>
<s>从图表看都特恐怖</s>
<time>1290_00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:12,360</time>
<s>你比如我去一个</s>
<time>1291_00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,240</time>
<s>我去一个房地产公司看销售</s>
<time>1292_00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:15,960</time>
<s>那墙上一张大表</s>
<time>1293_00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:17,400</time>
<s>所有的售楼小姐在那儿</s>
<time>1294_00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,640</time>
<s>其中第一名那条红线到这儿</s>
<time>1295_00:37:21,720 --> 00:37:22,440</time>
<s>第二名根本就在这儿</s>
<time>1296_00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:23,880</time>
<s>三名四名什么都差不多</s>
<time>1297_00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:26,760</time>
<s>她一个人恨不得</s>
<time>1298_00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,560</time>
<s>销十个人的房子</s>
<time>1299_00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:29,640</time>
<s>那这时候</s>
<time>1300_00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:31,440</time>
<s>那我就肯定有一个判断</s>
<time>1301_00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:33,600</time>
<s>就是语言的魅力对吧</s>
<time>1302_00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:36,840</time>
<s>那同事不会这么说</s>
