The_AT0 rules_NN2 of_PRF etiquette_NN1 change_NN1 with_PRP the_AT0 times_NN2 ._SENT Here_AV0 's_VBZ what_DTQ you_PNP need_VVB to_TO0 know_VVI right_AV0 now_AV0 ._SENT 
1_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
Etiquette_NN1 for_PRP etiquette_NN1 's_POS sake_NN1 alone_AV0 
According_VVG to_PRP etiquette_NN1 expert_NN1 Peggy_NP0 Post_NN1 ,_PUN times_NN2 change_NN1 ,_PUN but_CJC manners_NN2 ,_PUN which_DTQ she_PNP defines_VVZ as_PRP a_AT0 "_PUQ sensitive_AJ0 awareness_NN1 of_PRF the_AT0 feelings_NN2 of_PRF others_NN2 ,_PUN "_PUQ remain_VVB constant_AJ0 ._SENT "_PUQ If_CJS you_PNP have_VHB that_DT0 awareness_NN1 ,_PUN you_PNP have_VHB good_AJ0 manners_NN2 ,_PUN no_AT0 matter_NN1 which_DTQ fork_NN1 you_PNP use_VVB ._SENT "_PUQ The_AT0 rules_NN2 of_PRF etiquette_NN1 are_VBB there_AV0 to_TO0 help_VVI smooth_AJ0 social_AJ0 interactions_NN2 ,_PUN but_CJC they_PNP are_VBB n't_XX0 intended_VVN to_TO0 take_VVI the_AT0 place_NN1 of_PRF "_PUQ manners_NN2 ._SENT "_PUQ That_DT0 's_VBZ why_AVQ etiquette_NN1 rules_NN2 that_CJT cease_VVB serving_VVG smooth_AJ0 social_AJ0 interactions_NN2 eventually_AV0 cease_VVB to_TO0 exist_VVI ._SENT These_DT0 etiquette_NN1 rules_NN2 should_VM0 be_VBI taught_VVN in_PRP school_NN1 ,_PUN but_CJC are_VBB n't_XX0 ._SENT 
2_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
A_AT0 man_NN1 must_VM0 stand_VVI to_TO0 greet_VVI a_AT0 woman_NN1 
It_PNP was_VBD n't_XX0 all_DT0 that_CJT long_AV0 ago_AV0 that_CJT it_PNP was_VBD proper_AJ0 etiquette_NN1 for_PRP a_AT0 man_NN1 to_TO0 stand_VVI when_CJS greeting_VVG a_AT0 woman_NN1 entering_VVG the_AT0 room_NN1 ._SENT But_CJC nowadays_AV0 ,_PUN standing_VVG up_AVP is_VBZ proper_AJ0 etiquette_NN1 whenever_AVQ anyone_PNI greets_VVZ anyone_PNI ._SENT The_AT0 body_NN1 language_NN1 of_PRF standing_NN1 sends_VVZ a_AT0 signal_NN1 to_PRP the_AT0 person_NN1 you_PNP 're_VBB greeting_VVG that_CJT you_PNP 're_VBB eager_AJ0 to_TO0 greet_VVI that_DT0 person_NN1 ,_PUN etiquette_NN1 expert_NN1 ,_PUN Maralee_NP0 McKee_NP0 explains_VVZ ._SENT Consider_VVB it_PNP "_PUQ rising_VVG to_PRP the_AT0 occasion_NN1 ,_PUN "_PUQ whatever_DTQ your_DPS gender_NN1 ._SENT Once_CJS you_PNP sit_VVB back_AVP down_AVP ,_PUN do_VDB n't_XX0 forget_VVI these_DT0 other_AJ0 important_AJ0 table_NN1 etiquette_NN1 rules_NN2 ._SENT 
3_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
Ladies_NN2 are_VBB served_VVN first_ORD 
Traditional_AJ0 etiquette_NN1 holds_VVZ that_CJT at_PRP a_AT0 seated_AJ0 meal_NN1 ,_PUN women_NN2 are_VBB served_VVN first_ORD ,_PUN going_VVG clockwise_AV0 around_PRP the_AT0 table_NN1 ._SENT The_AT0 men_NN2 are_VBB then_AV0 served_VVN ,_PUN also_AV0 going_VVG clockwise_AV0 ._SENT But_CJC as_CJS you_PNP may_VM0 or_CJC may_VM0 not_XX0 have_VHI noticed_VVN ,_PUN the_AT0 restaurant_NN1 industry_NN1 is_VBZ quietly_AV0 redefining_VVG the_AT0 etiquette_NN1 surrounding_VVG who_PNQ gets_VVZ served_VVN first_ORD to_PRP a_AT0 more_AV0 gender-neutral_AJ0 and_CJC overall_AJ0 efficient_AJ0 model_NN1 ,_PUN reports_VVZ Eater_NP0 ,_PUN and_CJC that_DT0 will_VM0 likely_AV0 affect_VVI the_AT0 order_NN1 of_PRF service_NN1 in_PRP private_AJ0 homes_NN2 as_CJS well_AV0 as_CJS in_PRP restaurants_NN2 ._SENT 
4_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
Do_VDB n't_XX0 shake_VVI a_AT0 woman_NN1 's_POS hand_NN1 unless_CJS she_PNP offers_VVZ 
It_PNP used_VVD to_TO0 be_VBI that_CJT "_PUQ a_AT0 man_NN1 has_VHZ no_AT0 right_NN1 to_TO0 take_VVI a_AT0 lady_NN1 's_POS hand_NN1 until_CJS it_PNP is_VBZ offered_VVN ,_PUN "_PUQ as_CJS was_VBD noted_VVN in_PRP one_CRD Victorian-age_AJ0 guide_NN1 to_PRP etiquette_NN1 ._SENT And_CJC it_PNP was_VBD n't_XX0 all_DT0 that_CJT long_AV0 ago_AV0 that_CJT people_NN0 still_AV0 followed_VVD this_DT0 rule_NN1 ._SENT In_PRP fact_NN1 as_CJS recently_AV0 as_CJS 2000_CRD ,_PUN in_PRP GQ_NP0 's_POS guide_NN1 to_PRP handshake_NN1 etiquette_NN1 ,_PUN the_AT0 rule_NN1 is_VBZ clearly_AV0 stated_VVN :_PUN "_PUQ What_DTQ 's_VBZ proper_AJ0 is_VBZ for_PRP the_AT0 woman_NN1 to_TO0 offer_VVI her_DPS hand_NN1 first_ORD ._SENT "_PUQ This_DT0 is_VBZ no_AT0 longer_AJC the_AT0 case_NN1 ._SENT "_PUQ Today_AV0 ,_PUN a_AT0 man_NN1 does_VDZ not_XX0 need_VVI to_TO0 wait_VVI for_PRP a_AT0 woman_NN1 to_TO0 offer_VVI her_DPS hand_NN1 before_CJS he_PNP extends_VVZ his_PNP ._SENT Whether_CJS you_PNP are_VBB a_AT0 man_NN1 or_CJC a_AT0 woman_NN1 ,_PUN always_AV0 remember_VVB to_TO0 shake_VVI hands_NN2 ,_PUN "_PUQ advises_VVZ Emily_NP0 Post_NN1 ._SENT It_PNP 's_VBZ a_AT0 simple_AJ0 gesture_NN1 that_CJT can_VM0 make_VVI a_AT0 big_AJ0 impact_NN1 ,_PUN just_AV0 like_PRP these_DT0 little_AJ0 party_NN1 etiquette_NN1 rules_NN2 that_CJT will_VM0 definitely_AV0 get_VVI you_PNP invited_VVD back_AVP ._SENT 
5_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
Wedding_NN1 gifts_NN2 should_VM0 be_VBI based_VVN on_PRP the_AT0 host_NN1 's_POS price_NN1 per_PRP head_NN1 
At_PRP one_CRD time_NN1 ,_PUN many_DT0 people_NN0 were_VBD under_PRP the_AT0 impression_NN1 that_CJT wedding_NN1 gifts_NN2 should_VM0 match_VVI the_AT0 host_NN1 's_POS cost_NN1 per_PRP plate_NN1 at_PRP the_AT0 reception_NN1 ._SENT If_CJS this_DT0 was_VBD ever_AV0 actually_AV0 proper_AJ0 (_PUL which_DTQ wedding_NN1 planning_NN1 site_NN1 ,_PUN The_AT0 Knot_NN1 ,_PUN calls_VVZ into_PRP question_NN1 )_PUR ,_PUN it_PNP no_AV0 longer_AV0 applies_VVZ ._SENT As_CJS The_AT0 Knot_NN1 points_VVZ out_AVP ,_PUN using_VVG the_AT0 cost_NN1 per_PRP plate_NN1 as_PRP a_AT0 guide_NN1 requires_VVZ guests_NN2 to_TO0 ask_VVI nosy_AJ0 questions_NN2 of_PRF the_AT0 host_NN1 ._SENT A_AT0 current_AJ0 and_CJC more_AV0 sensible_AJ0 rule_NN1 of_PRF thumb_NN1 is_VBZ :_PUN give_VVB a_AT0 gift_NN1 in_PRP the_AT0 price_NN1 range_NN1 that_CJT makes_VVZ sense_NN1 for_PRP your_DPS budget_NN1 as_PRP gift-giver_NN1 ._SENT 
6_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
You_PNP have_VHB a_AT0 year_NN1 to_TO0 send_VVI a_AT0 wedding_NN1 gift_NN1 
It_PNP used_VVD to_TO0 be_VBI that_CJT the_AT0 rules_NN2 of_PRF etiquette_NN1 permitted_VVD you_PNP to_TO0 wait_VVI a_AT0 full_AJ0 year_NN1 after_PRP attending_VVG a_AT0 wedding_NN1 to_TO0 send_VVI a_AT0 wedding_NN1 gift_NN1 to_PRP the_AT0 "_PUQ newlyweds_NN2 ._SENT "_PUQ And_CJC why_AVQ that_DT0 was_VBD is_VBZ n't_XX0 even_AV0 clear_AJ0 to_PRP etiquette_NN1 experts_NN2 ,_PUN like_PRP Thomas_NP0 Farley_NP0 who_PNQ wondered_VVD aloud_AV0 on_PRP the_AT0 Today_AV0 Show_VVB whether_CJS the_AT0 idea_NN1 was_VBD to_TO0 wait_VVI to_TO0 see_VVI if_CJS the_AT0 couple_NN1 made_VVD it_PNP through_PRP the_AT0 first_ORD year_NN1 of_PRF marriage_NN1 ._SENT Nowadays_AV0 ,_PUN it_PNP 's_VBZ proper_AJ0 to_TO0 send_VVI a_AT0 wedding_NN1 gift_NN1 within_PRP a_AT0 month_NN1 (_PUL or_CJC sooner_AV0 !_SENT )_PUR after_PRP the_AT0 wedding_NN1 ._SENT On_PRP the_AT0 other_AJ0 hand_NN1 ,_PUN these_DT0 are_VBB the_AT0 wedding_NN1 rules_VVZ you_PNP simply_AV0 cannot_AJ0 break_NN1 —_PUN ever_AV0 ._SENT 
7_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
The_AT0 man_NN1 pays_VVZ for_PRP the_AT0 meal_NN1 
Gone_VVN are_VBB the_AT0 days_NN2 of_PRF men_NN2 being_VBG obligated_VVN to_TO0 pay_VVI for_PRP the_AT0 meals_NN2 of_PRF the_AT0 women_NN2 with_PRP whom_PNQ they_PNP dine_VVB ._SENT Going_VVG "_PUQ Dutch_AJ0 "_PUQ is_VBZ entirely_AV0 appropriate_AJ0 ,_PUN particularly_AV0 when_CJS two_CRD equals_NN2 mutually_AV0 make_VVB a_AT0 plan_NN1 ._SENT Otherwise_AV0 ,_PUN the_AT0 rule_NN1 is_VBZ that_DT0 whoever_PNQ does_VDZ the_AT0 inviting_AJ0 pays_VVZ for_PRP the_AT0 meal_NN1 ,_PUN according_VVG to_PRP the_AT0 Emily_NP0 Post_NN1 Institute_NN1 ._SENT 
8_CRD /_PUN 13_CRD 
A_AT0 man_NN1 must_VM0 hold_VVI the_AT0 door_NN1 for_PRP a_AT0 woman_NN1 
It_PNP 's_VBZ not_XX0 that_DT0 chivalry_NN1 is_VBZ dead_AJ0 ,_PUN explains_VVZ McKee_NP0 ._SENT It_PNP 's_VBZ that_DT0 nowadays_AV0 chivalry_NN1 ,_PUN like_PRP everything_PNI else_AV0 ,_PUN has_VHZ moved_VVN into_PRP a_AT0 gender-neutral_AJ0 territory_NN1 ._SENT And_CJC so_AV0 now_AV0 it_PNP is_VBZ no_AT0 longer_AV0 customary_AJ0 for_PRP a_AT0 woman_NN1 to_TO0 move_VVI aside_AV0 so_AV0 that_CJT a_AT0 man_NN1 can_VM0 open_VVI the_AT0 door_NN1 ,_PUN especially_AV0 if_CJS he_PNP 's_VBZ a_AT0 stranger_NN1 ._SENT Rather_AV0 ,_PUN the_AT0 first_ORD person_NN1 at_PRP the_AT0 door_NN1 should_VM0 open_VVI it_PNP and_CJC then_AV0 hold_VVB it_PNP open_VVB for_PRP the_AT0 next_ORD person_NN1 ._SENT And_CJC when_CJS you_PNP do_VDB hold_VVI the_AT0 door_NN1 ,_PUN be_VBI sure_AJ0 to_TO0 stand_VVI in_PRP a_AT0 way_NN1 that_CJT allows_VVZ for_PRP maximum_AJ0 room_NN1 for_PRP others_NN2 to_TO0 pass_VVI ._SENT 
