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My_DPS sophomore_NN1 year_NN1 in_PRP college_NN1 I_PNP was_VBD a_AT0 member_NN1 of_PRF the_AT0 dance_NN1 team_NN1 at_PRP Louisiana_NP0 Tech_NN1 University¡ªthe_NP0 Regal_AJ0 Blues_NN2 ,_PUN as_CJS they_PNP are_VBB now_AV0 called_VVN ._SENT I_PNP did_VDD n't_XX0 have_VHI a_AT0 car_NN1 ,_PUN so_CJS I_PNP would_VM0 often_AV0 ride_VVI with_PRP other_AJ0 girls_NN2 from_PRP the_AT0 squad_NN1 or_CJC friends_NN2 to_PRP and_CJC from_PRP football_NN1 games_NN2 that_CJT were_VBD off_PRP campus_NN1 ._SENT One_CRD night_NN1 I_PNP was_VBD in_PRP the_AT0 back_NN1 seat_NN1 ,_PUN and_CJC we_PNP were_VBD exhausted_VVN from_PRP cheering_VVG all_DT0 night_NN1 at_PRP the_AT0 game_NN1 ._SENT Our_DPS team_NN1 had_VHD lost¡ªin_AJ0 fact_NN1 we_PNP were_VBD commiserating_VVG on_PRP how_AVQ they_PNP got_VVD beat_NN1 like_CJS they_PNP stole_VVD something_PNI before_PRP eventually_AV0 we_PNP fell_VVD silent_AJ0 and_CJC the_AT0 radio_NN1 filled_VVD the_AT0 space_NN1 ._SENT Something_PNI about_PRP the_AT0 Brian_NP0 McKnight_NP0 song_NN1 "_PUQ Crazy_AJ0 Love_NN1 "_PUQ being_VBG played_VVN made_VVD me_PNP feel_VVB reflective_AJ0 ._SENT I_PNP looked_VVD up_AVP at_PRP the_AT0 stars_NN2 through_PRP the_AT0 sunroof_NN1 and_CJC instinctively_AV0 thought_VVD ,_PUN Somewhere_AV0 out_AVP here_AV0 in_PRP this_DT0 world_NN1 is_VBZ my_DPS husband_NN1 ._SENT Interestingly_AV0 ,_PUN I_PNP was_VBD not_XX0 one_CRD of_PRF those_DT0 college_NN1 girls_NN2 harping_VVG on_PRP her_DPS MRS_NP0 degree_NN1 ._SENT I_PNP was_VBD n't_XX0 one_PNI reading_VVG Black_AJ0 Bride_NN1 magazine_NN1 from_PRP cover_NN1 to_TO0 cover_VVI or_CJC who_PNQ 'd_VHD had_VHN my_DPS wedding_NN1 dress_NN1 picked_VVD out_AVP since_PRP age_NN1 twelve_CRD ._SENT In_PRP fact_NN1 ,_PUN I_PNP was_VBD so_AV0 focused_VVN on_PRP school_NN1 I_PNP was_VBD n't_XX0 even_AV0 interested_AJ0 in_PRP having_VHG a_AT0 boyfriend_NN1 ._SENT So_AV0 it_PNP was_VBD such_DT0 a_AT0 random_AJ0 thought_NN1 to_PRP me_PNP at_PRP the_AT0 time¡ªit_NN1 was_VBD n't_XX0 a_AT0 reaction_NN1 to_PRP anything_PNI that_CJT was_VBD being_VBG discussed_VVN in_PRP the_AT0 car_NN1 or_CJC something_PNI that_CJT had_VHD happened_VVN that_DT0 day_NN1 ._SENT But_CJC at_PRP that_DT0 moment_NN1 ,_PUN I_PNP wondered_VVD what_DTQ he_PNP was_VBD doing_VDG ._SENT 
I_PNP did_VDD n't_XX0 know_VVI it_PNP would_VM0 take_VVI twenty_CRD years_NN2 before_CJS I_PNP met_VVD him_PNP ._SENT I_PNP would_VM0 go_VVI through_PRP a_AT0 lot_NN1 of_PRF peaks_NN2 and_CJC valleys_NN2 in_PRP my_DPS life_NN1 over_PRP the_AT0 course_NN1 of_PRF the_AT0 next_ORD two_CRD decades_NN2 ._SENT But_CJC eventually_AV0 I_PNP came_VVD to_PRP the_AT0 conclusion_NN1 that_CJT I_PNP knew_VVD who_PNQ I_PNP wanted_VVD him_PNP to_TO0 meet_VVI ._SENT How_AVQ I_PNP chose_VVD to_TO0 live_VVI my_DPS life_NN1 now_AV0 mattered_VVD because_CJS it_PNP was_VBD the_AT0 version_NN1 of_PRF me_PNP that_CJT he_PNP 'd_VM0 see_VVI when_CJS we_PNP first_ORD set_VVD eyes_NN2 on_PRP each_DT0 other_NN1 ._SENT It_PNP would_VM0 impact_NN1 what_DTQ I_PNP said_VVD during_PRP our_DPS first_ORD conversations_NN2 ._SENT Would_VM0 he_PNP meet_VVI a_AT0 healed_AJ0 and_CJC whole_AJ0 Faith_NN1 or_CJC an_AT0 angry_AJ0 ,_PUN depressed_AJ0 ,_PUN crazed_AJ0 ,_PUN unfulfilled_AJ0 me_PNP who_PNQ had_VHD been_VBN dragged_VVN and_CJC wounded_VVN due_AJ0 to_PRP broken_AJ0 relationships_NN2 ?_SENT I_PNP did_VDD n't_XX0 want_VVI to_TO0 be_VBI a_AT0 carbon_NN1 copy_NN1 of_PRF other_AJ0 women_NN2 either_AV0 ._SENT I_PNP wanted_VVD to_TO0 be_VBI unique_AJ0 and_CJC distinctive_AJ0 ._SENT I_PNP wanted_VVD to_TO0 know_VVI myself_PNX more_AV0 and_CJC what_DTQ I_PNP liked_VVD and_CJC what_DTQ I_PNP didn't¡ªto_AV0 understand_VVB my_DPS feelings_NN2 about_PRP certain_AJ0 topics_NN2 ._SENT Singlehood_NN1 was_VBD not_XX0 my_DPS curse_NN1 ,_PUN it_PNP was_VBD my_DPS time_NN1 of_PRF preparation_NN1 and_CJC evolution_NN1 ._SENT 
Around_PRP this_DT0 time_NN1 was_VBD when_CJS I_PNP began_VVD to_TO0 internalize_VVI what_DTQ it_PNP meant_VVD to_TO0 be_VBI a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 who_PNQ attracts_VVZ quality_NN1 over_PRP quantity_NN1 ._SENT If_CJS I_PNP wanted_VVD to_TO0 be_VBI unique_AJ0 and_CJC distinctive_AJ0 ,_PUN I_PNP had_VHD to_TO0 do_VDI something_PNI unique_AJ0 and_CJC distinctive_AJ0 ._SENT I_PNP could_VM0 n't_XX0 just_AV0 show_VVI up_AVP to_PRP restaurants_NN2 featured_VVN in_PRP movies_NN2 hoping_VVG to_TO0 see_VVI my_DPS idyllic_AJ0 love_NN1 walk_NN1 through_PRP the_AT0 door_NN1 on_PRP cue_NN1 ._SENT Suddenly_AV0 the_AT0 "_PUQ work_NN1 "_PUQ of_PRF love_NN1 made_VVN sense_NN1 :_PUN it_PNP starts_VVZ long_AV0 before_CJS you_PNP actually_AV0 begin_VVB dating_VVG ._SENT What_DTQ did_VDD it_PNP mean_VVI to_TO0 be_VBI valuable_AJ0 ?_SENT What_DTQ did_VDD it_PNP mean_VVI to_TO0 love_VVI the_AT0 skin_NN1 I_PNP 'm_VBB in_AVP ?_SENT What_DTQ did_VDD it_PNP mean_VVI to_TO0 find_VVI someone_PNI to_TO0 share_VVI happiness¡ªnot_NP0 make_VVI me_PNP happy_AJ0 ?_SENT The_AT0 more_AV0 I_PNP could_VM0 build_VVI up_AVP my_DPS high-value_AJ0 self_NN1 ,_PUN the_AT0 more_AV0 I_PNP would_VM0 draw_VVI in_PRP someone_PNI of_PRF high_AJ0 value_NN1 to_TO0 share_VVI my_DPS life_NN1 with_PRP ._SENT 
Smart_AJ0 women_NN2 do_VDB n't_XX0 settle_VVI in_PRP their_DPS careers_NN2 ,_PUN friendships_NN2 ,_PUN or_CJC even_AV0 with_PRP their_DPS hairstylist_NN1 ,_PUN so_AV0 why_AVQ would_VM0 we_PNP settle_VVI in_PRP love_NN1 ?_SENT When_CJS that_DT0 thought_VVD set_VVN in_AVP ,_PUN I_PNP began_VVD to_TO0 truly_AV0 understand_VVI that_CJT the_AT0 journey_NN1 to_PRP Forever_AV0 Love_NN1 would_VM0 begin_VVI with_PRP Me_PNP ._SENT First_ORD ,_PUN knowing_VVG that_CJT I_PNP deserved_VVD the_AT0 best_AJS and_CJC then_AV0 ,_PUN secondly_AV0 ,_PUN defining_VVG what_DTQ matters_VVZ most_AV0 to_PRP me_PNP ._SENT My_DPS journey_NN1 to_PRP authentic_AJ0 love_NN1 did_VDD n't_XX0 start_VVI with_PRP finding_VVG the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 ;_PUN it_PNP started_VVD with_PRP loving_VVG the_AT0 person_NN1 at_PRP the_AT0 center_NN1 of_PRF it_PNP all¡ªme¡ªand_AJ0 becoming_VVG my_DPS best_AJS version_NN1 of_PRF myself_PNX ._SENT 
Michelle_NP0 Obama_NP0 chose_VVD Becoming_VVG as_PRP the_AT0 title_NN1 of_PRF her_DPS memoir_NN1 because_CJS she_PNP said_VVD it_PNP was_VBD reflective_AJ0 of_PRF her_DPS journey_NN1 of_PRF becoming_VVG her_PNP ._SENT She_PNP emphasized_VVD how_AVQ being_VBG intentional_AJ0 about_PRP learning_VVG at_PRP every_AT0 step_NN1 of_PRF her_DPS life_NN1 path_NN1 better_AV0 prepared_VVN her_PNP for_PRP what_DTQ was_VBD next_ORD ._SENT Preparation_NN1 was_VBD the_AT0 key_NN1 ._SENT 
If_CJS I_PNP wanted_VVD to_TO0 do_VDI well_AV0 on_PRP an_AT0 exam_NN1 in_PRP school_NN1 ,_PUN I_PNP studied_VVD ._SENT I_PNP did_VDD n't_XX0 just_AV0 show_VVI up_AVP with_PRP holy_AJ0 water_NN1 to_TO0 sprinkle_VVI on_PRP my_DPS papers_NN2 hoping_VVG I_PNP 'd_VM0 get_VVI the_AT0 answers_NN2 through_PRP osmosis_NN1 ._SENT If_CJS athletes_NN2 want_VVB to_TO0 win_VVI a_AT0 game_NN1 ,_PUN they_PNP practice_NN1 ._SENT They_PNP work_VVB out_AVP ._SENT They_PNP exercise_VVB ._SENT They_PNP eat_VVB food_NN1 that_CJT fuels_VVZ their_DPS stamina_NN1 ._SENT They_PNP do_VDB n't_XX0 just_AV0 show_VVI up_AVP at_PRP game_NN1 time_NN1 snacking_VVG on_PRP a_AT0 two-piece_AJ0 spicy_AJ0 after_PRP binging_NN1 Netflix_NN1 all_DT0 week_NN1 saying_VVG ,_PUN "_PUQ Put_VVB me_PNP in_AVP ,_PUN coach_NN1 !_SENT "_PUQ 
Preparation_NN1 dramatically_AV0 increases_VVZ your_DPS chances_NN2 for_PRP success_NN1 in_PRP every_AT0 area_NN1 you_PNP pursue_VVB in_PRP life_NN1 ,_PUN including_PRP your_DPS relationships_NN2 ._SENT Finding_VVG or_CJC attracting_VVG the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 is_VBZ great_AJ0 ._SENT But_CJC that_DT0 's_VBZ only_AV0 part_NN1 of_PRF the_AT0 process_NN1 ._SENT If_CJS you_PNP 're_VBB not_XX0 prepared_AJ0 for_PRP their_DPS presence_NN1 in_PRP your_DPS life_NN1 ,_PUN it_PNP 's_VBZ all_DT0 for_PRP naught_PNI ._SENT 
How_AVQ do_VDB you_PNP prepare_VVI ?_SENT It_PNP starts_VVZ with_PRP bringing_VVG a_AT0 healthy_AJ0 you_PNP into_PRP the_AT0 equation_NN1 ._SENT You_PNP want_VVB to_TO0 meet_VVI the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 ,_PUN correct_AJ0 ?_SENT You_PNP have_VHB a_AT0 list_NN1 of_PRF what_DTQ you_PNP want_VVB ?_SENT That_DT0 's_VBZ great_AJ0 ._SENT Your_DPS dream_NN1 person_NN1 likely_AJ0 does_VDZ too_AV0 ._SENT Would_VM0 they_PNP be_VBI excited_AJ0 about_PRP meeting_VVG you_PNP ?_SENT To_TO0 prepare_VVI for_PRP the_AT0 relationship_NN1 you_PNP want_VVB ,_PUN you_PNP must_VM0 be_VBI as_AV0 intentional_AJ0 about_PRP becoming_VVG the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 as_CJS you_PNP are_VBB about_AV0 attracting_VVG the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 ._SENT 
A_AT0 healthy_AJ0 relationship_NN1 is_VBZ made_VVN up_AVP of_PRF two_CRD healthy_AJ0 people_NN0 ._SENT I_PNP 'm_VBB not_XX0 talking_VVG about_PRP people_NN0 who_PNQ have_VHB it_PNP together_AV0 all_DT0 the_AT0 time¡ªI_NN2 'm_VBB referring_VVG to_PRP the_AT0 ones_NN2 who_PNQ actively_AV0 seek_VVB out_AVP their_DPS best_AJS selves_NN2 and_CJC continue_VVB to_TO0 work_VVI on_PRP becoming_VVG better_AV0 all_DT0 along_PRP the_AT0 way_NN1 ._SENT 
People_NN0 who_PNQ work_VVB on_PRP becoming_VVG the_AT0 best_AJS version_NN1 of_PRF themselves_PNX understand_VVB :_PUN 
If_CJS they_PNP know_VVB how_AVQ to_TO0 effectively_AV0 communicate_VVI ,_PUN it_PNP will_VM0 be_VBI reflected_VVN in_PRP their_DPS relationships_NN2 ._SENT If_CJS they_PNP know_VVB how_AVQ to_TO0 manage_VVI their_DPS emotions_NN2 ,_PUN it_PNP will_VM0 show_VVI in_PRP their_DPS relationships_NN2 ._SENT If_CJS they_PNP know_VVB how_AVQ to_TO0 create_VVI boundaries_NN2 ,_PUN it_PNP will_VM0 show_VVI in_PRP who_PNQ they_PNP choose_VVB to_TO0 connect_VVI with_PRP ._SENT If_CJS they_PNP refuse_VVB to_TO0 make_VVI someone_PNI else_AV0 responsible_AJ0 for_PRP their_DPS happiness_NN1 ,_PUN their_DPS relationship_NN1 will_VM0 mirror_VVI that_DT0 ._SENT 
When_CJS you_PNP can_VM0 see_VVI through_PRP healthy_AJ0 ,_PUN healed_AJ0 ,_PUN and_CJC whole_AJ0 eyes_NN2 ,_PUN you_PNP approach_VVB dating_VVG with_PRP a_AT0 clearer_AJC vision_NN1 ._SENT When_CJS your_DPS vision_NN1 is_VBZ clear_AJ0 ,_PUN you_PNP create_VVB a_AT0 path_NN1 for_PRP better_AJC experiences_NN2 and_CJC people_NN0 to_TO0 find_VVI you_PNP ._SENT It_PNP all_AV0 starts_VVZ with_PRP your_DPS preparation_NN1 to_TO0 become_VVI better_AJC ._SENT 
How_AVQ we_PNP speak_VVB to_PRP people_NN0 ,_PUN how_AVQ we_PNP manage_VVB conflict_NN1 ,_PUN how_AVQ we_PNP apologize_VVB ,_PUN how_AVQ we_PNP show_VVB compassion_NN1 ,_PUN how_AVQ we_PNP sit_VVB in_PRP humility_NN1 ,_PUN and_CJC how_AVQ we_PNP leave_VVB clothes_NN2 on_PRP the_AT0 floor_NN1 ,_PUN or_CJC dishes_NN2 in_PRP the_AT0 sink_NN1 ,_PUN or_CJC the_AT0 toilet_NN1 seat_NN1 up_AVP will_VM0 be_VBI the_AT0 same_DT0 whether_CJS it_PNP 's_VBZ in_PRP our_DPS own_DT0 company_NN1 or_CJC the_AT0 company_NN1 of_PRF someone_PNI else_AV0 ._SENT This_DT0 is_VBZ why_AVQ it_PNP is_VBZ so_AV0 important_AJ0 to_TO0 become_VVI the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 to_TO0 attract_VVI the_AT0 right_AJ0 person_NN1 ._SENT 
So_AV0 ,_PUN I_PNP started_VVD becoming_VVG ._SENT 
From_PRP this_DT0 clarity_NN1 came_VVD a_AT0 calm_AJ0 resolve_NN1 ,_PUN and_CJC I_PNP was_VBD committed_VVN to_PRP holding_VVG out_AVP for_PRP exactly_AV0 what_DTQ I_PNP knew_VVD I_PNP wanted_VVD ._SENT Becoming_VVG takes_VVZ time_NN1 ._SENT It_PNP took_VVD time_NN1 for_PRP me_PNP to_TO0 figure_VVI out_AVP what_DTQ that_DT0 was_VBD ,_PUN but_CJC eventually_AV0 I_PNP became_VVD more_AV0 confident_AJ0 in_PRP saying_VVG no_AV0 to_PRP everything_PNI that_CJT was_VBD n't_XX0 that_DT0 ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP not_XX0 being_VBG made_VVN a_AT0 priority_NN1 ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP being_VBG ignored_VVN or_CJC not_XX0 called_VVN back_AVP ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP not_XX0 being_VBG cherished_VVN ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP insecurity_NN1 ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP dimming_VVG my_DPS light_NN1 so_CJS he_PNP does_VDZ n't_XX0 feel_VVI threatened_VVN ._SENT No_AV0 to_PRP disrespect_NN1 ._SENT No_ITJ to_PRP dishonesty_NN1 ._SENT No_ITJ to_PRP less_AV0 than_CJS the_AT0 best_AJS ._SENT No_ITJ to_PRP counterfeit_AJ0 love_NN1 ._SENT 
And_CJC yes_ITJ to_PRP honoring_VVG myself_PNX in_PRP becoming_VVG a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 deserving_AJ0 of_PRF a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 man_NN1 ._SENT 
A_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 holds_VVZ herself_PNX in_PRP high_AJ0 regard_NN1 and_CJC expects_VVZ nothing_PNI less_AV0 from_PRP her_DPS partner_NN1 ._SENT Some_DT0 call_VVB her_DPS bougie_NN1 ,_PUN but_CJC it_PNP 's_VBZ not_XX0 about_PRP living_VVG an_AT0 expensive_AJ0 lifestyle_NN1 or_CJC having_VHG a_AT0 self-aggrandizing_AJ0 attitude_NN1 ,_PUN but_CJC rather_AV0 knowing_VVG that_CJT everything_PNI she_PNP does_VDZ and_CJC everyone_PNI in_PRP her_DPS life_NN1 serves_VVZ an_AT0 important_AJ0 purpose_NN1 ._SENT She_PNP 's_VBZ not_XX0 about_PRP being_VBG hard_AJ0 as_PRP nails_NN2 or_CJC rigid_AJ0 or_CJC a_AT0 "_PUQ prude_NN1 ._SENT "_PUQ She_PNP intrinsically_AV0 knows_VVZ her_DPS worth_NN1 and_CJC uses_VVZ that_CJT as_CJS her_DPS guiding_AJ0 light_NN1 from_PRP which_DTQ all_DT0 her_DPS relationships_NN2 will_VM0 build_VVI ._SENT 
The_AT0 inner_AJ0 you_PNP that_DT0 generates_VVZ high-value_AJ0 love_NN1 is_VBZ the_AT0 same_DT0 place_NN1 that_CJT attracts_VVZ genuine_AJ0 love_NN1 from_PRP others_NN2 ._SENT If_CJS your_DPS inner_AJ0 source_NN1 is_VBZ unclear_AJ0 ,_PUN your_DPS ability_NN1 to_TO0 attract_VVI high-value_AJ0 love_NN1 is_VBZ obscured_VVN ._SENT In_PRP order_NN1 to_TO0 bring_VVI light_NN1 to_PRP that_DT0 inner_AJ0 you_PNP ,_PUN you_PNP will_VM0 first_ORD need_VVI to_TO0 learn_VVI how_AVQ to_TO0 give_VVI yourself_PNX what_DTQ you_PNP are_VBB seeking_VVG ._SENT 
Love_NN1 creates_VVZ more_DT0 love_NN1 ._SENT 
The_AT0 loving_AJ0 attract_VVB love_NN1 ._SENT 
When_CJS your_DPS own_DT0 inner_AJ0 love_NN1 light_NN1 shines_VVZ ,_PUN you_PNP open_VVB yourself_PNX up_AVP to_TO0 experience_VVI the_AT0 beautiful_AJ0 wonder_NN1 of_PRF a_AT0 deep_AJ0 and_CJC powerful_AJ0 connection_NN1 with_PRP another_DT0 human_AJ0 being_NN1 ._SENT 
What_DTQ else_AV0 happens_VVZ when_CJS you_PNP appreciate_VVB yourself_PNX for_PRP the_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 that_CJT you_PNP are_VBB ?_SENT You_PNP start_VVB to_TO0 attract_VVI high-value_AJ0 men_NN2 who_PNQ love_VVB women_NN2 who_PNQ know_VVB their_DPS worth_NN1 ._SENT Becoming_VVG a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 starts_VVZ with_PRP appreciating_VVG the_AT0 value_NN1 in_PRP you_PNP ._SENT 
Marsha_NP0 kept_VVD seeing_VVG her_DPS boyfriend_NN1 ,_PUN Jay_NP0 ,_PUN constantly_AV0 liking_VVG photos_NN2 of_PRF Instagram_AJ0 models_NN2 on_PRP social_AJ0 media_NN0 and_CJC started_VVD feeling_VVG bad_AJ0 about_PRP herself_PNX ._SENT She_PNP started_VVD internalizing_VVG his_DPS likes_NN2 as_CJS if_CJS they_PNP were_VBD indicative_AJ0 of_PRF deficiencies_NN2 within_PRP herself_PNX ._SENT "_PUQ I_PNP do_VDB n't_XX0 look_VVI like_PRP any_DT0 of_PRF the_AT0 women_NN2 in_PRP the_AT0 photos_NN2 he_PNP likes_VVZ ._SENT Maybe_AV0 that_DT0 's_VBZ what_DTQ he_PNP really_AV0 prefers_VVZ ,_PUN "_PUQ she_PNP said_VVD to_PRP me_PNP ._SENT "_PUQ He_PNP 's_VBZ settling_VVG for_PRP me_PNP ._SENT "_PUQ Marsha_NP0 had_VHD gained_VVN twenty_CRD pounds_NN2 during_PRP the_AT0 pandemic_AJ0 and_CJC quarantine_NN1 and_CJC was_VBD n't_XX0 feeling_VVG like_PRP her_DPS best_AJS self_NN1 ._SENT Marsha_NP0 ,_PUN Marsha_NP0 ,_PUN Marsha_NP0 ._SENT What_DTQ I_PNP saw_VVD in_PRP front_NN1 of_PRF me_PNP was_VBD a_AT0 gorgeous_AJ0 woman¡ªfrom_NN1 the_AT0 inside_NN1 out_AVP ,_PUN impeccable_AJ0 style_NN1 ,_PUN the_AT0 best_AJS curves_NN2 ._SENT And_CJC she_PNP was_VBD falling_VVG into_PRP the_AT0 social_AJ0 media_NN0 un-reality_NN1 trap_NN1 ._SENT I_PNP told_VVD her_PNP ,_PUN "_PUQ Sis_NN1 ,_PUN the_AT0 Instagram_NN1 models_NN2 do_VDB n't_XX0 even_AV0 look_VVI like_PRP the_AT0 Instagram_AJ0 models_NN2 ._SENT Take_VVB those_DT0 five_CRD filters_NN2 off_PRP those_DT0 pics_NN2 and_CJC you_PNP could_VM0 n't_XX0 pick_VVI '_PUQ em_PNP out_AVP of_PRF a_AT0 lineup_NN1 ._SENT "_PUQ We_PNP might_VM0 as_CJS well_AV0 start_VVI singing_VVG the_AT0 theme_NN1 song_NN1 from_PRP Aladdin_NP0 ,_PUN "_PUQ A_AT0 Whole_AJ0 New_AJ0 World_NN1 ,_PUN "_PUQ because_CJS there_EX0 are_VBB too_AV0 many_DT0 folks_NN2 who_PNQ are_VBB a_AT0 whole_AJ0 different_AJ0 person_NN1 without_PRP that_DT0 airbrushing_NN1 and_CJC manipulation_NN1 ._SENT But_CJC even_AV0 if_CJS that_DT0 were_VBD n't_XX0 the_AT0 case_NN1 ,_PUN Marsha_NP0 needed_VVD to_TO0 know_VVI :_PUN comparison_NN1 is_VBZ the_AT0 thief_NN1 of_PRF joy_NN1 ._SENT 
First_ORD ,_PUN I_PNP agreed_VVD with_PRP her_PNP that_CJT it_PNP was_VBD disrespectful_AJ0 for_PRP Jay_NP0 to_TO0 like_VVI photos_NN2 of_PRF scantily_AV0 clad_VVN women_NN2 once_CJS she_PNP told_VVD him_PNP that_CJT she_PNP was_VBD n't_XX0 comfortable_AJ0 with_PRP it_PNP ,_PUN but_CJC more_AV0 than_CJS that¡ªMarsha_NP0 had_VHD to_TO0 stop_VVI defaulting_AJ0 to_PRP questioning_VVG her_DPS own_DT0 self-worth_NN1 over_PRP her_DPS boyfriend_NN1 's_POS Insta-happy_AJ0 fingers_NN2 or_CJC the_AT0 twenty_CRD pounds_NN2 she_PNP wanted_VVD to_TO0 lose_VVI ._SENT Even_AV0 though_CJS she_PNP decided_VVD to_TO0 end_VVI the_AT0 relationship_NN1 because_CJS she_PNP and_CJC Jay_NP0 were_VBD n't_XX0 on_PRP the_AT0 same_DT0 page_NN1 ,_PUN she_PNP knew_VVD she_PNP had_VHD some_DT0 work_NN1 to_TO0 do_VDI ._SENT Often_AV0 our_DPS triggers_NN2 reveal_VVB the_AT0 places_NN2 we_PNP need_VVB to_TO0 heal_VVI ._SENT As_CJS for_PRP Jay_NP0 ,_PUN it_PNP appears_VVZ he_PNP also_AV0 had_VHD a_AT0 lesson_NN1 to_TO0 learn_VVI :_PUN often_AV0 the_AT0 grass_NN1 is_VBZ greener_AJC on_PRP the_AT0 other_AJ0 side¡­_NN1 because_CJS it_PNP 's_VBZ fake_AJ0 ._SENT 
Second_ORD ,_PUN we_PNP 're_VBB our_DPS own_DT0 worst_AJS critics_NN2 when_CJS it_PNP comes_VVZ to_PRP our_DPS perceived_AJ0 flaws_NN2 ._SENT So_AV0 many_DT0 of_PRF these_DT0 negative_AJ0 inner_AJ0 conversations_NN2 take_VVB a_AT0 toll_NN1 on_PRP our_DPS self-worth_NN1 ._SENT It_PNP blocks_VVZ the_AT0 path_NN1 to_PRP loving_VVG ourselves_PNX outrageously_AV0 ,_PUN like_PRP no_AT0 one_PNI else_AV0 could_VM0 ._SENT If_CJS you_PNP 're_VBB waiting_VVG to_TO0 be_VBI prettier_AJC ,_PUN thinner_AJC ,_PUN richer_AJC ,_PUN smarter_AJC to_TO0 feel_VVI better_AV0 about_PRP yourself_PNX and_CJC think_VVB that_DT0 's_VBZ when_AVQ you_PNP 'll_VM0 attract_VVI a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 partner_NN1 ,_PUN you_PNP 're_VBB missing_VVG out_AVP on_PRP precious_AJ0 time_NN1 and_CJC love_NN1 in_PRP the_AT0 now_AV0 ._SENT 
You_PNP 'll_VM0 never_AV0 get_VVI to_PRP "_PUQ perfect_AJ0 ._SENT "_PUQ Perfect_AJ0 is_VBZ a_AT0 race¡ªand_NN1 as_CJS you_PNP run_VVB toward_PRP it_PNP ,_PUN the_AT0 finish_NN1 line_NN1 keeps_VVZ moving_VVG farther_AV0 away_AV0 ._SENT You_PNP do_VDB n't_XX0 have_VHI to_TO0 be_VBI perfect_AJ0 to_TO0 be_VBI loved¡ªyou_NN1 have_VHB to_TO0 be_VBI you_PNP ._SENT A_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 knows_VVZ this_DT0 ._SENT 
To_TO0 become_VVI a_AT0 high-value_AJ0 woman_NN1 you_PNP have_VHB to_TO0 nurture_VVI the_AT0 relationship_NN1 you_PNP have_VHB with_PRP yourself_PNX ._SENT Just_AV0 like_VVB in_PRP any_DT0 relationship_NN1 ,_PUN we_PNP do_VDB n't_XX0 expect_VVI that_DT0 relationship_NN1 to_TO0 be_VBI the_AT0 same_DT0 from_PRP day_NN1 to_PRP day_NN1 ._SENT Most_DT0 of_PRF us_PNP usually_AV0 expect_VVB there_AV0 to_TO0 be_VBI ebbs_NN2 and_CJC flows_NN2 and_CJC changing_AJ0 seasons_NN2 in_PRP our_DPS friendships_NN2 ,_PUN family_NN1 relationships_NN2 ,_PUN and_CJC romantic_AJ0 interests_NN2 ,_PUN but_CJC the_AT0 same_DT0 is_VBZ true_AJ0 for_PRP the_AT0 relationship_NN1 we_PNP have_VHB with_PRP ourselves_PNX ._SENT When_CJS you_PNP learn_VVB to_TO0 love_VVI yourself_PNX ,_PUN you_PNP have_VHB a_AT0 lifelong_AJ0 romance_NN1 that_CJT never_AV0 fades_VVZ or_CJC tires_VVZ you_PNP ._SENT And_CJC when_CJS you_PNP know_VVB your_DPS self-worth_NN1 ,_PUN everyone_PNI else_AV0 will_VM0 know_VVI it_PNP too_AV0 ._SENT 
Here_AV0 are_VBB some_DT0 scenarios_NN2 to_TO0 show_VVI the_AT0 difference_NN1 between_PRP low-value_AJ0 and_CJC high-value_AJ0 self-worth_NN1 ._SENT 
Dating_NN1 Scenario_NN1 
Low-Value_AJ0 Response_NN1 
High-Value_AJ0 Response_NN1 
He_PNP wo_VM0 n't_XX0 commit_VVI ._SENT 
Give_VVB him_PNP an_AT0 ultimatum_NN1 ._SENT 
Pull_VVB away_AV0 because_CJS he_PNP is_VBZ holding_VVG up_AVP the_AT0 line_NN1 ._SENT 
You_PNP 're_VBB confused_AJ0 about_PRP where_AVQ you_PNP stand_VVB ._SENT 
Demand_VVB an_AT0 answer_NN1 ._SENT 
Knowing_VVG that_CJT if_CJS you_PNP have_VHB to_TO0 ask_VVI ,_PUN you_PNP already_AV0 know_VVB the_AT0 answer_NN1 ._SENT 
